I am a wife first my husband is the most important person in my life We are first for each other before the children. The children are the second most important people in my life. If you wonder why my hubby is first , Ill tell ya if my husband and I don't put ourselves first toward each other, we will loose each other. Then my family will fall apart. So we must stay focused on each other to hold our family together. Our children need us together.....