With potty training, you'r mindset has to change to "Practice makes perfect."
Make sure she knows what you want her to do. She needs to see you do it.
If she's ready to potty train, put her in some big girl underwear with her normal clothes and let her go. She won't like being wet and she'll figure out the potty training thing a lot faster than you think. Just so you know, pooping in the potty will take a bit longer than pee pee training.
by erikaysJanuary 23, 2013 at 2:07 PMI'm the same battle as you, we are on day 3, he's going commando with his 8 yr old brothers shirt.
In the last 3 days he's only had 2 accidents, not bad! It's exhausting but I'm determined! I downloaded the iGoPotty app and he gets "phone calls", in the past we've tried EVERYTHING, this is the only thing that has made him excited!
I would do the underwear but we have no washer/dryer in our apartment :/
Well remember that you being a perfectionist is irrelevant to this process because it's not about you :) When she was learning to walk did you push her down every time she got up until you knew she would do it perfectly? Probably not. You probably sat back and watched her stumble and pick herself back up and giggled at the process.
Put her in underwear all day except for sleeping and then be prepared to clean up a lot of accidents. Take her frequently but don't force her. If she resists, let her be. If she pees on herself then take her to the potty, sit her down, remind her where the pee goes and then clean her and the accident up while showing no emotion. Go nuts when she is successful and try to get her striving for that response from you a lot. My DD LOVED the verbal praise way more than any treat we tried to bribe her with.
It takes time, hang in there.
My 2 1/2 year old has NO interest in the potty right now. I keep trying to reinforce it. I feel when they are ready they will go but a nice little push from us will always help. Working on the potty training is hard work but with hard work comes accomplishments. she'll get there.
by PEEK05January 23, 2013 at 7:02 PM
It does sound like you might be holding her back. At least give her the chance to try. :)
by xoxRachelxoxJanuary 23, 2013 at 7:15 PM
My middle son wasn't fully potty trained until around 4.5 and I was fine with that. They will potty train, when they're ready.
I would just ask him if he wanted to use the potty throughout the day. If he said yes then off we'd go and if he went then he got a treat. If he said he didn't want to go then I was okay with that too.
I really didn't think it would ever happen but it did, when he was ready.
My youngest is mostly potty trained with the exception of bedtime. He's 3. He'll stay dry at night, when he's ready.