But I despise that phrase! My parents used to sat it right before and as they beat the crap out of me... Extension cords, wire hangers, shoes, cutting board, wrenches... That phrase gets my blood boiling... Sorry, had to get that out there..
My grandma spanked me when I needed it... There is a huge difference... So I spank when it's needed.
I think spanking is 100% unnecessary. I think there is ALWAYS another way to teach your children right from wrong in a compassionate and constructive way. Regardless of the level of danger they were in, I still just believe those situations deserve a conversation for a child who is older and if the child was too young for a conversation then you need to keep a closer eye on your kid. My son ran out into a parking lot once because the walkway sort of melted into the sidewalk and he didn't have a clear boundary. It was as much my fault for not holding on to him so how could I spank for that? It was an accident so if he needed a spanking for that then so did I...
I don't spank my son but I am not against spanking. Anything beyond a swat with a hand is too much, imo. I chose not to spank because I know ds would percieve it as hitting, so I am afraid he would think it meant it was ok to hit people if you don't like what they are doing. Like I said, though, I have no problem with spanking in general--my parents spanked us.