If/when you child is in time out...do you make them sit? What if the lay down or so forth? Do I keep making him sit on his butt? I'm kind of torn with it. When we do timeouts...he will stay in the timeout spot, but will lay on his back or belly. I feel like it's his little way of saying-I'm still doing what I want! (he's 26months!)
For my son (3 y/o), as long as he stays in the spot, I am not going to nit-pic. To me, the lesson is the stoppage of playing and the child taking the time to think about what they have done that got them into this situation.
I send my daughter to her room. In my point of view, she is having a time out from the situation. If she goes into her room and lays in bed, fine. If she goes and reads some books, fine. If she is playing appropriately and not destroying her room, fine. The whole point of time out (to me) is to give her a time out from the situation so that when she is calm and ready to behave, she can come out and apologize for misbehaving and we can have a conversation about it. This works for our family perfectly.
We've tried a chair and sittin on a mat.. standing them in the spot with their nose on the wall, hands down has been what works, even for our youngest two. Sometimes my 5 year old will lay down on the floor but keep in the general area. you can always try a mat that is a little bigger or a piece of cardboard that you and him can decorate by coloring and write Time Out Spot on it, then explain best you can about the rules that go with the time out spot.
i send ds to his room for time outs, if he wants to lay in his bed fine, sometimes i do back in the 3 or 4 mins and hes asleep in bed, usually the timeouts that he gets when hes being very whiney and idk whats wrong end like that.