Am I selfish to be thinking about anova baby I am 22 I have a 4.5 year old and a 20 month old! My husband works and we could afford anova but my oldest has certain learning and behaivoural issues and evryone sez we shud wait til we know wats wrong!
Its up to you!! What otger people think doesn't matter, don't let it get in the way. If you and your dh feel its right then why not? Right now everyone else thinks i should have an abortion!! Doesn't mean i will! I have a 5 yo and an 11 mo old, we didn't plan on another one but you take what you get!
I think that it is all up to what you are comfortable with. You are (i'm sure) working on finding out what is going on with your oldest. You cannot put everything on hold though and would a 9month long pregnancy (plus how ever long it takes to concive) effect finding out what is going on with your oldest? I fyou feel you can handle everything, go for it
My daughter is 3 yo and is developmentally delayed. We have been trying to figure out "what is wrong with her" for over 2 years now. We decided that we wanted a second baby and waiting for things to settle down with our first might mean that we would never have another baby, so no I don't think you should base your decision on knowing what is wrong with your oldest. That doesn't mean you might not want to consider your oldest needs and whether or not you can handle another baby, but the truth of the matter is that you may never get an answer for her learning/behavioral problems, because many don't.
why is having another child selfish? Screw what anyone else thinks... so your oldest has learning and behavioral issues, work with him/her like you would any other special need child and live your life the way YOU want. If you want another child and so does DH than go for it!