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What would you do if you could find out if your child's sexual orientation before he or she is born?
December 13, 2012 at 8:03 AM

Your Womb Could Make Your Kid Gay. Seriously

Posted by Adriana Velez 
on December 11, 2012 at 9:40 PM

pregnant bellyMost of us by now understand that homosexuality isn't a "lifestyle choice." It's something you're, well... Like Lady Gaga puts it, you're just born that way. I think most of us are coming around to that understanding, and it's made a huge difference in the lives of countless young gay people.

But science is here to throw a little wrench into that idea. We talk about there being a "gay gene" or homosexuality being part of your gentic makeup because, well, that just makes sense, right? But it's starting to look way more complicated than that. Researchers are now saying they think there isn't a "gay gene." Instead, all the action happens in the mother's womb, during pregnancy.

Okay, this gets super complicated, but this is the simplest way I can think of explaining it. Epi-marks, which are kind of like switches that can change how our genes express themselves after birth, are what's responsible for a person's sexual orientation. And the epi-marks that trigger sexual orientation are passed down from fathers to daughters and from mothers to sons. (Read more here if you're intrigued -- it's fascinating. GEE, SCIENCE!)

Anyway, so what? Does that change anything? I mean, for us parents. If it turns out your child is gay, does it matter if that "happens" genetically or while he's in the womb?

I can come up with plenty of nightmare situations where this gets all turned around for the worse: Homophobic family members blaming the mom for gestating a gay child. Or families trying to find out of their baby's sexual orientation before they're born, just like we can find out gender. We're a crazy bunch, we humans.

Or we could just continue loving and accepting our children, no matter who they are. It doesn't matter how they get here or what goes into their genetics or their epi-marks or any of it. They're here and it's our job to love them and help them become the best people they can possibly be.

What would you do if you could find out if your child's sexual orientation before he or she is born?

 

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Replies

  • m0mmyheather
    December 13, 2012 at 8:08 AM
    I wouldn't even care. I'll accept my child regardless of what her sexual orientation turns out to be.
  • anxiousschk
    December 13, 2012 at 8:13 AM

    Meh, I don't think I'd do it.  

  • Randi02
    by Randi02
    December 13, 2012 at 8:21 AM
    I wouldn't do a thing. If my child is gay, it doesn't make any difference to me.
  • RhondaVeggie
    December 13, 2012 at 9:51 AM
    I wouldn't do it. I believe it's innate but also influenced by environment. Someone who is genetically straight might be attracted to one person of the same sex or vice versa. I know a woman who is a lesbian, dated women only for 30 years until she met the one guy on the planet that she wanted to be with. She still identifies as a lesbian because she never even looks at other guys because there's no sexual attraction there but she's happily married to her guy. Then there's the trans issue, how is that manifested? Maybe you're pregnant with a boy and the genes show he likes boys but when he grows up you realize 'he' is actually a straight woman in the wrong body.

    Labeling a child from birth can only cause problems. Raise your kids right and it won't matter whether they date girls or boys when they grow up.
  • shoot4thestars
    December 13, 2012 at 10:02 AM

    Nothing.

  • bwsmommy
    December 13, 2012 at 12:42 PM
    Doesn't make a difference to me .. I would love my child no matter ...
  • RedheadMama18
    December 13, 2012 at 1:33 PM

    Nothing I would still love and accept my baby.

  • Pandapanda
    December 13, 2012 at 2:17 PM

    I wouldn't bother getting the test done- their sexual orientation matters as much as last week's weather. 

  • nerdymom28
    December 13, 2012 at 2:18 PM

     I wouldn't do it because it doesn't matter to me.

  • Babygirl46342
    December 13, 2012 at 2:24 PM

    I wouldn't want to know because it doesn't matter to me. Having a baby is such a wonderful blessing no matter what. 

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