Pregnancy
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I'm sorry you're feeling so down and lost. Pregnancy is tough even if it is planned, even if the couple having a child is married, even if you think you've got life figured out. Pregnancy and baby changes everything. Life is no longer about you. But that doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, being selfless is a great thing. You have so much to share with your baby--so much knowledge, so much love. And you'll both learn together, too.
Being pregnant is tough even in a good relationship--there are horomones, of course, and then there is the fear of the unknown. Pregnancy affects both the mom and dad, remember that. You cannot completely change the father of your baby, but you can at least try to have a heart to heart with him. Communication is very important in any relationship and even moreso when you're going through a pregnancy together. That's really all you can do, try to talk to him, help him (not force him) but help him to understand.
If it turns out that he's not what you want in a boyfriend and father for your child than you have every right to leave and do it on your own--and you CAN do it!
Exercising and eating right are very good, but you have to really try to think positive, too. I know it's not easy. I've dealt with depression my whole life and the only thing that has really pulled me out of it is myself telling myself that this is enough! Enough laying in bed crying. Enough thinking negative thoughts. It's not easy, but nothing worth doing ever is, is it?
You're laying in bed crying, force yourself to get up, go for a walk, cook something, read, write, draw, take a bath, anything. Stop yourself from sinking further into the bad place.
You're not alone in how you feel.
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(((HUGS)))
Not having support can make any pregnancy-planned or unplanned very hard.
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This exactly..praying for u ((hugs))
Quoting Ludvik_Smith:
I'm sorry you're feeling so down and lost. Pregnancy is tough even if it is planned, even if the couple having a child is married, even if you think you've got life figured out. Pregnancy and baby changes everything. Life is no longer about you. But that doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, being selfless is a great thing. You have so much to share with your baby--so much knowledge, so much love. And you'll both learn together, too.
Being pregnant is tough even in a good relationship--there are horomones, of course, and then there is the fear of the unknown. Pregnancy affects both the mom and dad, remember that. You cannot completely change the father of your baby, but you can at least try to have a heart to heart with him. Communication is very important in any relationship and even moreso when you're going through a pregnancy together. That's really all you can do, try to talk to him, help him (not force him) but help him to understand.
If it turns out that he's not what you want in a boyfriend and father for your child than you have every right to leave and do it on your own--and you CAN do it!
Exercising and eating right are very good, but you have to really try to think positive, too. I know it's not easy. I've dealt with depression my whole life and the only thing that has really pulled me out of it is myself telling myself that this is enough! Enough laying in bed crying. Enough thinking negative thoughts. It's not easy, but nothing worth doing ever is, is it?
You're laying in bed crying, force yourself to get up, go for a walk, cook something, read, write, draw, take a bath, anything. Stop yourself from sinking further into the bad place.
You're not alone in how you feel.
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i agree with above, also check with your dr, they may be able to give you zoloft which is safe in small doses and can help you. talk with your family, you can probually get better support there
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I'm so very sorry
First get away from the life sucking bf you have if he loved you or that baby he would have already gotten a JOB and started acting like a MAN
Second seek therapy if you can to learn to deal with depression issues you are having you Have to find a support system depression is common in a ton of women whem pregnant.
Make sure you are looking out for YOU right now there is nothing else you need to worry about for 30 more weeks
Get back to school NOW credits carry over to when you go back get done what you can now you still have months till baby is here
If you need someone to vent to or talk to I'm here :) I did my ds alone for a few years and loved it! I was so happy to be rid of this pos bf I had that didn't work , smoked pot, and played games all day
Nowwww I am married expecting a little girl own a house and a business all because I found a man and partner not a life sucker
What you have. That's not love that's settling -
im sorry hunny :( maybe you need to make a lifestyle change? That doesnt sound like a great environment to raise a baby in and your SO doesnt sound to eager about the baby. If you could, move out and do something positive for you and your baby. I couldnt imagine living in a house like that and feeling all alone :( HUGS
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I would start by seeing a dr today and going from there.
I hope things get better for you. Hang in there.