gumeshoe
How to be a good little girl, per the hospital. I'm not a good girl. *** UPDATE
October 7, 2012 at 4:15 PM

UPDATED INFO FOR THOSE WHO HAVE MISREAD **** I never said I know more than my doctor.

I EXPECT informed consent to be a requirement before any procedure, just like any other thing you go to the hospital for. They tell you the options the ones they like, the ones they don't like, risks and benefits and I get to choose. THEY EDUCATE, I CHOOSE.

If anyone wants to go on faith and blindly accept anything they want, that is fine I won't stop you. That is your business. You get your choices, I get mine.

I might wear the stupid hospital gown, but I don't want to be bullied into it. I don't know what I will feel most comfortable in, until I get there. But it is really funny that some think  that bulling is ok in the hospital, but not in school's?


My dr wanted me to go in today to L&D to get an NST because he thinks I am 42 weeks, I think that I am 39 weeks. Late ultrasounds vs LMP. Did NST Thursday, Tues, Thursday, today on Sunday, and then have appt to go back on Tuesday. So we have done this for a while. I don't think they are really needed, I am just going along with some of his wishes. I have told him NO on induction. Just keeping the peace really going along with the NST's.

While at the hospital they give me a pamphlet on how to be a good patient.

Admission. Upon arrival to the childbirth suite you will be INSTRUCTED to change into a hospital gown ... A vaginal exam will be done to see if your cervix is ready for the baby to come.
It says not to worry we are assessing your baby continuously. IE STAY IN BED WITH THE NST MONITORS ON AT ALL TIMES.

You are staying to deliver your baby. IV fluids WILL BE STARTED in your hand or arm. This will help in the prevention of dehydration and/or low blood sugar.

Can I eat or drink? While you are in active labor most physicians WILL ONLY ALLOW clear liquids and ice.

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix if fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I was asked if I had any instructions for the nursery. I said I didn't plan on my child going to the nursery. THE BABY CAN'T BE IN YOUR ROOM UNLESS SOMEONE IS AWAKE is what I was told. Hubby said I will be here and be awake if she isn't.

I think me being comfortable, wearing what I want because I am not sick, being able to move is going to do more to progress my labor than you hooking me to a useless machine for the duration. Laying on my back in pain not moving isn't going to fly. You might get 20 mins. Might. I sure am not allowing you to start a non medically needed IV, I am giving birth I am not SICK. I will prevent dehydration and low blood sugar the old fashioned way. And I am pretty sure I will know when I need to push. Why do you believe that my cervix is just yours to grope as you please? I mean really the baby is going to come regardless if you check or not. PS you have no rights over my child and where he will be. He needs to come to me immediately. You don't get to tell me how soon I can see him or when I get to have him in my room. He is MINE. He will be with a parent at all times. (he has an umbilical cord and if anything is wrong, you need to leave it intact to allow you time to work on him vs detaching him from his built in life support)

It is silly in this day and age that hospitals think they get to dictate your birth. They use words to make it sound like you have no options. I didn't bother addressing any of this today. No need to start issues early. But Hubby is like wait a min who do they think they are. You can ask, you can suggest, you don't get to demand. Too bad home births are not legal in my state. But after today, Hubby FULLY understands why you would not want to get to the hospital early.




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  • Shygirl951
    October 7, 2012 at 5:06 PM
    Well, as long as your doc is on board mayb ehe can help smoothe some things out. hospitals always want things their way, ugh i hate them !!! too bad you guys dont have ahospital that supports a more natural approach like mine
  • louzannalady
    October 7, 2012 at 5:12 PM

    I am super excited for your birth and cannot hear how everything goes! : ) You are awesome, Momma! :  ) 

    Quoting gumeshoe:

    HAHA I have stuff in a word file from your links and other places to print out before go time. Some links are short and are pasted into the word file. Other pages I will print in entirety. Put in a 3 ring folder.

    Quoting louzannalady:

    Smh... I am SOOO glad you know better that this crap, Momma! : ) Do you have a doula? I would not feel safe birthing in a hospital without one! You can hire a student for free or educed rate, as many work for the experience. : ) Oh and here is the link to ACOG's informed consent committee opinion (if you don't have it). It helps to have it in your bag! : ) You are going to rock your birth! : ) 

    http://www.dona.org/ (Great way to find a cost effective doula, just contact one and see if there are students working!)

    http://www.acog.org/Resources_And_Publications/Committee_Opinions/Committee_on_Ethics/Informed_Consent




  • lulu_tattoos
    October 7, 2012 at 5:28 PM
    I wish I could like this post a billion times!

    This is why I'm choosing a hospital in a smaller town that's further away, because my local hospital is just like this. They're bullies and I don't feel like having to fight with those assholes to get the labor and delivery I want. I'm changing from my ob who delivers there to a midwife in the other town who delivers at the other hospital, where they are open and accomodating to natural progression and natural childbirth.
  • lovemyhoney19
    October 7, 2012 at 5:38 PM
    Wooooww reading that Annoyed me so much. What a bunch of bullshit.
  • mr.scariesmommy
    October 7, 2012 at 5:48 PM
    Wow they wouldn't like me then.
  • momalove123
    October 7, 2012 at 5:57 PM
    I remember having my second son and I knew it was timeto push and they said do you feel like you want too or do you really have too and I screamed im pushing! Your body knowsbest what to do.
  • RunningMom81
    October 7, 2012 at 6:01 PM

    and this is exactly why i use a midwife and do a birth center or home birth!!

  • gumeshoe
    October 7, 2012 at 7:12 PM

    I would rather birth at home and sleep in my own bed period. But that is illegal to do and have any help. So far I have only had silent contractions, they where on the strip Thursday and today. Tummy gets hard and I just don't know, unless I check constantly. So unless that continues till delievery I can't have an opps I gave birth at home.

    The birth center doesn't like me being 37 and over weight for my first birth. (2nd child 1st birth). It is 1.5 or 2 hours away. Even if they would take me dr's visits there would be really hard to do. We have 1 reliable car and no extra money for that long drive. Probably better it didn't work out. In a perfect world, it would have been nice.

    I tried the midwives (CNMs) 1st, I never got past the 1st visit. The office staff there was horrible. They wanted me to sign my life away that I would pay for whatever it cost, but couldn't tell me how much stuff would cost for labs, only that it was $900 something for the dr only. They didn't like me asking questions about money. I was wasting their time.

    Quoting RunningMom81:

    and this is exactly why i use a midwife and do a birth center or home birth!!


  • eykelley
    Liz
    October 7, 2012 at 7:20 PM
    I had a scheduled Csec and even I didn't have 1/2 that crap!! Haha. Baby roomed in for all 4 days w/o issue and dh and I slept at the same time EVERY NIGHT! Haha.

    Make sure ur dh is there w/ u the entire time and u do what u want momma. U don't have to do anything the hospital says. Make it ur day. :D
  • RunningMom81
    October 7, 2012 at 8:05 PM

    That's too bad you had such a crummy experience with midwives.  I know I am fortunate that I have had 2 really fantastic midwives for my 3 - going on 4 - births.  It's sad that it can't be an option for everyone to deliver the way they want.

    Quoting gumeshoe:

    I would rather birth at home and sleep in my own bed period. But that is illegal to do and have any help. So far I have only had silent contractions, they where on the strip Thursday and today. Tummy gets hard and I just don't know, unless I check constantly. So unless that continues till delievery I can't have an opps I gave birth at home.

    The birth center doesn't like me being 37 and over weight for my first birth. (2nd child 1st birth). It is 1.5 or 2 hours away. Even if they would take me dr's visits there would be really hard to do. We have 1 reliable car and no extra money for that long drive. Probably better it didn't work out. In a perfect world, it would have been nice.

    I tried the midwives (CNMs) 1st, I never got past the 1st visit. The office staff there was horrible. They wanted me to sign my life away that I would pay for whatever it cost, but couldn't tell me how much stuff would cost for labs, only that it was $900 something for the dr only. They didn't like me asking questions about money. I was wasting their time.

    Quoting RunningMom81:

    and this is exactly why i use a midwife and do a birth center or home birth!!



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