A little bit of basic information... I am due to have baby number 5 in december and the pregnancy was a complete suprise and unplanned... I am 42 so am immediatly classed as 'high risk' anyway because of my age alone...
I had a hospital appointment on Tuesday, and the Midwife left me feeling guilty, upset, scared and very angry... I have a 1 in 11 chance of having a child with Down syndrome because the blood test came back positive.. The ultrasound was excellent and the fluid behind the neck was the right amount, so there is no definant diagnoses at the moment...
I was treated as if there has been a diagnosis and was told by the Midwife, to have an amniosentisies, and to terminate... She didnt even say 'if the amnio results come back for DS to terminate'...That i have 4 healthy children already and that given that i am 42, what happens when i am no longer here... She never asked me what i had planned to do, or what my thoughts were, she told me what i should do... Nor did she ask me what my hubby wanted me to do, or his thoughts either...
Hubby and i have decided that we are not going to have a amnio because of the risks, and that we will love our baby regardless... That we are leaving this in Gods hands and will work together and face whatever comes our way...
Medical professionals need to be more aware of how they approach telling a mother they are 'high risk' and give some hope, rather than making a desicion for them based on a blood test result, even before there is an exact diagnosis...
by CaseriJune 14, 2012 at 8:04 AMUgh that's not right. I'd make your feelings known and maybe switch midwives. You've had children so you know how it all works, they disrespectfully told you what they think you should do when it could be a perfectly healthy baby!
by RayawniJune 14, 2012 at 8:09 AMTime for a new midwife. Not all of them are created equal. I work with one who loves interventions.
by MrsKishJune 14, 2012 at 8:24 AMMy MIL was 40 when she got pregnant in the eariy 80's. They want her to sign off on agreement if he had
DS that she would abort. She compleatly refused testing. I'd find a new care pervider ASAP!
by Tea4TasJune 14, 2012 at 8:27 AM
n an "accidental pregnanc" the blood tests are more inaccurate. Oh and it didn't come back positive-only an amnio or CVS can be positive-it's a risk assessment test.
THE REASON for an Amnio is to determine if your baby has genetic disorders, and the best way to treat those disorders. You will want to give birth in a hospital with a level 3 NICU and they might want to be certain there are appropriate specialists on hand (as in pediatric heart specialists) which might mean a c-section. Further testing will help you determine what your specfic child might need.
by Grace0409June 14, 2012 at 8:32 AMThey told my mother when she was pregnant with my little brother that he had no kidneys,was gonna have Downs and may not even live... they told her to terminate while she still could... and she refused changed doctors and my brother is now a cocky badass smart 17 year old boy... DOCTORS DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING... Good Luck and I can't wait to see pictures of you LO :)
by jenzachsamJune 14, 2012 at 8:39 AM
Your midwife must be the driver of the cunt wagon. Can I knock her out for you? I am pissed just reading this! If she would have been my midwife, I would have told her off or knocked her out. Keep your faith alive and well. I believe your baby will be perfectly fine. Those blood test give off false positives all the time. Time to find a new midwife!
by ElyseFowlerJune 14, 2012 at 8:48 AM
I would def find a different midwife especially if she can't be supportive in your pregnancy. Its not her place to judge your decision that is like telling a girl who is 22 and in perfect health finds out her child might be born with down syndrom and telling her to terminate. I can't stand people like that they need to just accept the child the way they are born good luck
by ShirreeMJune 14, 2012 at 8:51 AMI agree!
Wow I'm sorry that's horrible. I'd suggest changing to someone new.
by MommyRJJune 14, 2012 at 8:55 AMWow.. I'd switch immediately.