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Did you come up with your baby's name, or did you let his father make the final decision?
May 10, 2012 at 4:37 AM

Moms, Not Dads, Should Have the Final Say on Baby Names

Posted by Mary Fischer on May 8, 2012 

babyWhen it comes to giving your baby the perfect name, you really just can't afford to screw up. I mean, your poor kid is going to be stuck with whatever moniker you pick out for the rest of his life, so you'd better do your research and think long and hard before putting anything down on that birth certificate. (No pressure.)

Of course, when it comes down to making the decision, moms have way more say than dads do on choosing the final name. Or at least we should. Yeah, yeah, yeah -- I know things are supposed to be all happy and equal and you're supposed to compromise when it comes to making parenting decisions. But baby names? Yeah, the moms definitely win that war hands down.

My husband and I had a pretty hard time picking out our son's name. I offered up quite a few suggestions that he immediately shot down, so when we finally did come to a consensus and found a name we both liked, we stuck with it -- and luckily it suits our 6-year-old perfectly. And while we had his first name picked out by the time I was about 4 months pregnant, we did go back and forth a bit with what his middle name would be.

You see, in my husband's family, most of the males are given one of two middle names. I won't lie -- I wasn't particularly fond of either of those names, plus neither one really seemed to fit with the first name we had chosen. Oh yeah, and then there was the part of me that knew there was no chance in hell that our son would have any other middle name than the one I'd already settled on in my head -- my dad's first name. Lucky for me, I really didn't have to fight my hubby too hard on this one, but I totally would've duked it out with him if he'd resisted me in the slightest.

After all, I was the one who had to endure 9 months of pregnancy (which included unbearable heartburn, a 50 pound weight gain, and hemorrhoids), so it only seemed fitting for me to get my way when it came to naming our son. Moms carry the babies, so moms should have the final say on what the babies are going to be called -- period. Oh, and another thing, in most cases, the baby automatically takes the father's last name, so it's not like they have any room to complain. They get a piece of the pie regardless of what that child is called. And actually, if you look at it that way, and the mom gives the baby his first name and the dad gives him the last name, everything works out to be 50/50 anyway, right?

Did you come up with your baby's name, or did you let his father make the final decision?

Replies

  • candimalice
    May 10, 2012 at 5:03 AM
    With my first two we came up with them together, but this time its a different father and I've cut him out of my life because of his abuse and controling my every move so I haven't allowed him any say in her name.. he lost that right when he continued to hit me even while I was pregnant. I'm naming her after family the same my xhusband and I did with my first two!
  • cutestmom24
    May 10, 2012 at 7:15 AM
    I chose our dd's frist name and he chose her middle name
  • Hazelnutkin
    May 10, 2012 at 7:50 AM

     We kept offering up suggestions until we could agree that we liked 4 or 5 first and middle combos. We took that list to the hospital and decided when we met them. No dispute when we saw them. It worked three times.

  • BabyDust77
    May 10, 2012 at 7:54 AM

    We're both tryin to come to an agreement with this one.Won't know what it is for another 3 or so months, ut I love obsessing over names. The first one I came up with a name, and he liked it. Second, I had him choose from 2 names (Torie or Kimberly.) He did throw out the name Skye, and we made that her middle name. The youngest was gonna be a Kaightlin,but when she came out the name didn't fit her. We were also thinking of Brieann and ended up naming her that.

  • smorekids
    May 10, 2012 at 8:12 AM
    I'll just say don't make any bets. Lol I had 3 boys & I got to name them all. So when I was pregnant with my DD we didn't find out what we were having. I just assumed it was another boy so when we were going through names DH didn't like any names I had picked especially for a boy. So I made a bet with him, if we were to have a boy I would name him & if we had a girl he would name her. Never did I think it was a girl so I agreed. Well you can imagine my excitement & shock that I had a girl! I kept up with my agreement & he named her Chelsea. I got to pick the middle name, Elizabeth which was my Gmas middle name. I love my DD's name, and I love that her Dad got to name her. When I had my 4th son i got to name him so it's pretty special too that my hubby got to name his only daughter! :)
  • kmqw229
    by kmqw229
    May 10, 2012 at 8:36 AM
    We decided together each time.
  • Innocencedreams
    May 10, 2012 at 9:24 AM

    We came up with Caleb's name together. Luke's name he decided on, his biological mother didn't care either way.

  • boshs1andonly
    May 10, 2012 at 9:25 AM

    We came up with them together. There were a few names I loved that he hated, but I never would have named her something he really didn't like. The one name I really wanted he turned down because it was too similar to his sisters (which ended up being a blessing in disguise so it's fine). 

  • nickigoingon8
    May 10, 2012 at 10:48 AM

    If it is a boy he picks the first name and we both pick middle...if it is a girl I pick the first and we both pick the middle

  • TriciaMae3388
    May 10, 2012 at 10:58 AM
    We picked her name together! I let him pick her first name (with some help) and we worked together on her middle name!
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