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Would you ever hire a wet nurse to breastfeed your baby?
May 17, 2013 at 2:11 PM

Hiring a Wet Nurse to Breastfeed Baby Is Too Bizarre for Me

by Nicole Fabian-Weber

nursingSo, apparently wet nurses are on the rise. For those of you unaware of what a wet nurse does, here's a quick job description: They're a person who breastfeeds your baby. Obviously, wet nurses, like anything related to breastfeeding and parenting, are controversial. And every person, depending on their experiences, varies on how they feel about them. But as for me? I could never do it.

Some women, sadly, have trouble nursing. I know this. And these moms want to give their sweet babes the absolute best nutrition. They don't want to resort to the "dreaded" formula. But, I don't know, I would just find it strange and uncomfortable, seeing my own child suckling at another woman's breast. Pumped breast milk is one thing, I suppose. But full-on nursing? That's just too weird for me.

I certainly don't think that moms who breastfeed have any stronger of a bond over moms who don't -- all mothers have strong bonds with their children. I feel just as strong a bond with my daughter giving her a bottle now as I did when I was nursing. But when you're nursing -- and nursing only -- you're both a source of food and comfort to the child. There would likely be many times in which your child would prefer to another person to you. It would feel a bit odd to witness something like that after being pregnant for nine months and giving birth.

Every parent wants what's best for the child. Of course. And some moms simply cannot bear to not give their child breast milk -- I totally respect that. But wouldn't it make a little more sense to simply have pumped breast milk out of a bottle for the baby instead of hiring someone to do the actual nursing for you? If we've heard it once, we've heard it a thousand times: Babies don't care where they get their food from. They just want to eat.

Would you ever hire a wet nurse?


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  • KylersMom8-16-7
    May 17, 2013 at 2:24 PM
    No but I would use donor milk.
  • MommySwiggles
    May 17, 2013 at 2:25 PM
  • Momniscient
    May 17, 2013 at 2:26 PM
  • jessicaaris
    May 17, 2013 at 2:34 PM

     Nope. That is just way too personal.

  • Mom2Just1
    May 17, 2013 at 2:44 PM

    No. IF for some reason I couldn't breastfeed...I would go with donor milk.  FOrmula for us last resort.

  • comptonkids
    May 17, 2013 at 2:47 PM
    I might
    not really sure my thoughts on it
    I think I would be okay with being a wet nurse as well
  • norahsmommy
    May 17, 2013 at 2:47 PM
    I'd rather buy or locate donor milk but if I somehow could not and I found a reliable wet nurse, I would hire.
  • shilohsmommy215
    May 17, 2013 at 2:49 PM
    I would be a wet nurse. And if I didn't have good lactation I'd probably hire a wet nurse.
  • 937mrsweaver
    May 17, 2013 at 2:55 PM

    omg no way no how!!!! too many reasons to list! ugh just no!!!!

    why not pump the milk? u would really allow some stranger nurse your child?!?!? CRAZY!!!

  • abra
    by abra
    May 17, 2013 at 3:43 PM

    me too. I've always found that whole feeding someone elses baby breastmilk to be total creepfest. I know it's "milk" but that milk is also someone elses bodily fluids. It's one thing when the kid came out of you, it's totally something else when it didn't. I have friends who will breastfeed other babies and I just can't bo ok with it. ICKY!

    Quoting mbev513:

    NO WAY! I would formula feed before I ever considered this. 


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