I won the inlaw lottery! They are really helpful and involved with our kids and generally really supportive of DH's and my choices. They are even paying our rent while DH goes back to school for a second degree so we don't have to take out a loan for that part.
With anyone you spend a lot of time around, little things that are annoying will come up, but that's just part of life. Most of the problems I have with my inlaws are things I just need to get over. :-)
I love my in laws. MIL was a little over bearing when our first DS was born but I don't hold it against her. I think she genuinely didn't know about BF which made her question every little thing. She was fairly open to my natural ways or parenting. She has her opinion but isn't too pushy about it.
i hated my mil. she was very distructive in my marriage. as bad as it makes me sound, i'm glad she's gone. she died three years ago, and we still are dealing with the problems she created.
my fil, though, i love the man. he's a great guy. he's now dating dh's ex's mom, which is hilarious. they live across town. we don't see them often, but that's okay. they're the type of people i can only handle in small doses. but they always ask how we are/how the kids are, and help out when they can. so i can't really complain.
I love them and get along great with them. They do great with my son. My dhs grandparents kinda get to me about how I raise him.(cloth diapering, co sleeping, I hold him all the time we have not told them we delay vax don't plan to either I don't wanna hear it lol.) Which kinda annoys me but other than that they are great and am blessed to have them in my life.
The longer I'm married to DH, the more I like my in-laws. Things done by my MIL that initially seemed overbearing are not such an issue, since I've gotten to know her better and know that her intentions are good. I am thankful to have the in-laws that I do.
I am blessed to having amazing in laws (I will admit my mil annoys me occasionally though lol) All of dh's family lives in TX (he joined the Navy and got stationed here and we just stayed here) but when we do get to vist them or vice versa they are great with the kids.