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4 month old will not sleep more than an hour....EDIT... Edit again :)
January 21, 2013 at 12:46 AM
Hi ladies! I am new to this group and I'm having a bit of a problem. For the first 3 months of my daughters life she was a great sleeper. At night we would put her down with a pacifier and she'd be asleep within a half hour. She slept 8 hours at a time, and after nursing would sleep another 4. We were doing great!

Well, after she turned 3 months she stopped taking the pacifier, so I started nursing her to sleep every night. Probably not the best thing to do, in hindsight. Now she is 4 1/2 months old and will only sleep with me in bed! If I put her down in her crib or bassinett she will sleep for an hour then wake up. This will happen all night until I bring her into my bed. I love snuggling with her, but I want my bed back and I want her to have good sleeping habits.

Does anyone have any tips? I don't want to do CIO. I feel too bad when I try it.

Sorry for any typos! I am mobile and have a baby in my lap :)


Thank you everyone who replied kindly. I didn't realize I would create so much drama with this post! My daughter is breastfed but takes a bottle of breastmilk every Monday night when I am not home. I will not be giving her any cereals, so don't worry :) You ladies have convinced me that nursing to sleep is not going to ruin my baby. I am not one for bed sharing, but it seems I may have a lot of it in my future! Thanks to those who reminded me that they are only young once. I will enjoy this time with my girl and give her whatever she needs from me. :) I guess I just needed some encouragement and to know that this is all normal.

Edit 2:

She slept for 5 hours straight tonight! I heard her crying and by the time I got to her she had put herself back to sleep. That has never happened before. Then she did the same thing twice more! I needed that longer stretch of sleep. :)


  • melindabelcher
    January 22, 2013 at 8:34 AM
    Hurray for better sleep last night!
  • ForeverInLove
    January 22, 2013 at 8:44 AM

    *eyeroll* Four months old is too young for infant cereal... It's too young to attempt to make a chid sleep longer for the sake of your own sleep. It's called put baby next you in bed, or even right next to your bed. Baby will match his or her waking pattern to mom's sleeping pattern, helping to prevent mom from being a zombie when she wakes the feed. It's also MUCH safer than having the child sleep in another room. 

    also, regardless of how you were able to pump, doesn't mean other mothers are able to do that too, and even if they can, it doesn't mean that they should offer a bottle in place of breast. Breast is still best. Breast is still normal. Anything else is subpar. At the breast, baby tells the breast exactly what they need that milk to do. At the breast, baby is getting antibodies that he or she wouldn't otherwise get. At the breast, baby more effectively gets hindmilk. At the breast, baby is not overfed or forced to eat longer than he or she wants. At the breast, baby cannot be given unwanted or unneeded solids because a parent would prefer to sleep instead. Last time I checked, I was a parent... not a teenager. When I was a teen, I slept all night. As a parent, I wake for baby crying, I wake for toddler crying, and I wake when my five year old has a night terror. Some nights I wake because the damn fat ass cat can't figure out that people want to sleep and not be run over as he is chased by Blue, the skinnier cat who actually crawls under the covers and puts himself between my husband and I, lol. Damn cats! Got to love them!

    Anyways... we should find ways to help the OP that won't sabotage her breastfeeding relationship with her child. Offering a bottle is sabotage... unless you need to do it, it's not necessary, and cause damage.

    Quoting Pessema:

    OP? True, thats why when you pump you do it slightly more often than when your child would be eating. I understand your concerns about pumping, i did origionally. My baby is 6 months & i've been pumping since she was 8 weeks old and I still have more than what she needs, plus you should be starting her on infant cereals soon so she won't need as much BM you just pump for 20-25 min about the time that you normally would have breastfed.

    Quoting MorganTho:

    Baby empties the breast more efficiently and completely than the pump. Do you even know if OP HAS a pump?

    Quoting Pessema:

    If you pump it does not hurt your supply if you aren't lazy and do it right. and the sooner you start her on a bottle the easier it will be. 

    Quoting MorganTho:

    I wouldn't do that she may not even take a bottle and that can harm your supply.

    Quoting Pessema:

    The only thing to do is when she wakes up start giving her a bottle instead of nursing, then put her right back in her crib. It might take a little bit but soon she will learn that waking up doesnt mean boob time.

  • zinniadaisy
    January 22, 2013 at 9:02 AM

    Great news on the better night!!  Keep it up and she'll fall into this new routine quickly!

  • rHOPEb
    by rHOPEb
    January 22, 2013 at 9:59 AM

    Woohoo!!!!  Its amazing how just 4hrs of sleep can make you feel like a brand new woman!  And yes, the others are right......your baby is only little once and enjoy it.  I've had to remind myself of this with my son.  I have to sit and nurse him.  Tho it is frustrating when I have a million things to do, it makes me stop and have a quiet moment with just him :)  I'm glad you slept better and I pray you will have many more nights like that.  Just remember as she starts teething and growing she may have other days where she wakes up a few more times.........Good job momma!!!!

  • mamabens
    January 22, 2013 at 11:50 AM

    SMH Please ignore this! Breastfed babies are so much different than formula fed babies. Becuase breastmilk changes to meet a babies needs unlike formula a breastfed baby NEVER needs a bottle bigger than 3-4 oz every 3-4 hrs. EVER & should NOT be getting any solid foods before 6 months. If you've never breastfed then you can't give breastfeeding advice accurately.

    Quoting RetiredUSAFWife:

    Well the only way you'll fix it is to let her know that you're in charge. It will only last a few days. My children slept through the night at a very early age. They were well fed and they were happy children. So it's your choice, You should be in charge not your child. Feed her before she cries for her food, and make sure she drinks at least four or five ounces or more at each feeding. At that age, she should probably be drinking a full bottle of formula three to four times a day, along with solid foods like fruit & veggies etc.

  • cabrandy03
    January 22, 2013 at 1:45 PM

    Yay for a good nights sleep last night!


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