My little boy is 5 months old now and for the past 5 months I've had the luxury of being a stay-at-home-mom.
My son still wakes up about 3-4 times a night (some times more) and, since my husband works 10 hours a day at a mentally exhausting job, I have always gotten up with the baby every single time every single night.
But, I feel like, being a stay-at-home-mom is just as physically and mentally exhausting as his job except it's not just 10 hours a day, it's 24. I'm starting to wonder if maybe it's time my Husband starts waking up with the baby from time to time so that I can finally get some rest. I'm wondering if that sounds reasonable? And if so, is there a nonabrasive way to talk to him about it?
What dh and I did was he'd get up, bring me baby, and make the bottle, I would then feed her, change her, and get her back to sleep, and he'd lay her back down. But our situation was different because with our oldest I did everything by myself so I wanted him to be more involved with our DD2.
It depends on what else is going on and who is more tired. Frequently I get up with baby at night, but DH watches the kids so I can take a nap later (he is a full time student right now so that works out). But at 5 months old, I wasn't getting up more then twice a night with my babies. I use sleep training so everyone (baby included) can get a healthy nights sleep!
If it were me, I would get up with him most of the time, and if you are too exhausted, ask him to do the feedings on the nights that he has the next day off. Dads, in my opinion, aren't as good with sleep deprivation as moms are.
Mines bf so I never have his wake upside if she's older with a bad dream or something ill tell him since he's the one who had to protect us anyways lol but no I think it's fair he works o take of us I work with baby so he can do that
I always woke up on weekdays with my boys and weekends and other days off were he's days. We kinda did a switch off on weekends though. Whoever got up in the middle of the night slept in and who got the full nights rest got up. I myself think it's fair but that's what worked for us. It's never going to be fair either way just letting you know.
Dh has always gotten up. I'm a sahm, not a robot. I could nap when the baby does, but then I would never shower and we would live in filth. I'm sorry if he's tired at work, but that's something that was taken into consideration before having babies.