Babies
I'm 40 years old, and have two sets of twins. I have my first set of twins that I had when I was 16, on Decemeber 23 ( Tyler& Eve) - they are 24 now. I was with their father for the first 3 years, but then I moved and spent my 20s in night classes and working 2 jobs and raising my children as a single mom. I loved my life, but it was very difficult at times. When I was 32 I got married to my husband, and 6 months after Tyler&Eve went to college, I had my second set of twins with my husband. (Alessandra &Nate) I live in a completely different city then I did when I was raising Tyler&Eve, and now I'm married and have a stable life/job. Alessandra and Nate are now 6, and my husband and I are deciding if we want to have another child or two. I'm 40 and my doctor said it would be likely for me to have on, but probably not two. He wants more kids, but I'm not sure I want to start over a 3rd time, he hasn't been raising kids for 24 years. What are some things we can talk about to decide what is right for us? What did you talk about with your husband/partner before having more kids? I don't want to rush in to anything, but also don't have all the time in the world.
Thanks for muccch!!
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Dh has a 18 and 16 year old from his first marriage and then we have an 8 and 15 month old together. When I was trying to convince him to have our youngest we talked about things like would I feel complete if I didn't have another baby, would he be too old to enjoy his grandkids or walk her down the aisle, how important was it for him to be young enough to travel and enjoy our time together once the kids had grown....Obviously, for us, the pros outweighed the cons, but if you decide you don't want another one, I would think the two little lives you created together would be blessings enough :) GL! -
Well I think your age is an important thing to talk about. You will be 60 before any new babies would be out in the world on there owns. When do you plan to retire? The health risk that increase during pregnacy when you are older?
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Well, I'm not able to.give advice because I just have not been in your shoes. I'm 24 with a 6 year old and 2 year old... Still with their dad. So here is a bump. But did u talk about this before getting married? -
Here's a bump :-)
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I agree. You'll also want to consider what age the baby/child will be when you start needing help. My mom had her 6th at 40. My little sister is almost 19 and she's already having to take care of my mom. It is holding her back and I don't really think that it is a good thing. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and my sister, but it is something you'll want to think about.
Quoting kirstina:
Well I think your age is an important thing to talk about. You will be 60 before any new babies would be out in the world on there owns. When do you plan to retire? The health risk that increase during pregnacy when you are older?