Where to start? I was pregnant a few months ago..I was 8 weeks and a few days. I had told my boyfriend if a year and a half that I was pregnant.. He had a melt down. He had a gun up to his head and he had cut his wrists. So for him I got an abortion. It killed me. Yes, I know it's wrong and what not but I had to do it. I made him sit there with me while i was getting it done. it was very tramatic on both parts. His sister had told me he told her he regreted me getting the abortion. Recently I found out I was pregnant again..I haven't had my period since December 10. I don't know what to do or what to think. I still haven't told my boyfriend yet because I'm scared for him and me.
He needs to see a counsellor. You need to figure out if you want this baby, possibly without him. I suggest you speak to someone as well.
What is your bf nervous of? Is your relationship stable, are your finances ok? Are there other children to be taken into consideration?
I wish you luck & love with the decisions you need to make.
You are 19, you've been preg twice, you can't support yourself, you aren't married, and news of a baby makes your boyfriend suicidal.....sweetie, buck up!!! You need to get away from this guy, get an education, and decide what is best with this pregnancy, wether that be abortion, adoption, or your being a single mother! Also, make sure the boyfriend has some life insurance!!
I do want it. I just don't know if I'm capable of doing it finacally. I just got a job it pays minium wage. He makes 10-15 dollars an hour. We've been together for almost 2 years were a great match and never really have problems. I honestly think he's scared of having responsibility and of growing up. No there's no other children. I'm 20 and he's 19.
I would tell him. Since you found out from his sister he even said that he wished you didn't get an abortion. He is more understanding now and when he has sex with you he knows that you coudd get pregnant. Im sorry you had to go through that rough time :/ but congrats on being pregnant again hope you keep it <3
My advice may not be popular, but.......I think you need to decide whether you're prepared to be a mother, independent of your relationship with him. He doesn't sound stable, and frankly, trying to support a baby on one minimum-wage job and one that earns 10-15 an hour will be very, very tough. If you do decide to keep the baby, it needs to be because you feel this is what's best for the baby, you're prepared to be a good parent, and if necessary you'll do it without the boyfriend. Don't decide to have this baby assuming that he'll always be there and able to be an equal provider and a good partner/father; based on your OP, this doesn't sound like it's the case.
If all of these things are not true, then I think you should a) consider adoption or another abortion (and get on a more reliable form of birth control!) and b) re-think your relationship.
I see the boyfriend and the baby as being two separate issues, but both need some serious thought and attention.