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carly1993
Is my beautiful son autistic?
February 3, 2013 at 5:37 AM

As I explained before, my son is very hurtful towards me, both physically and verbally, and he also hurts other children so he can't go to school and doesn't have any playmates. It took me forever to find a babysitter patient enough to take care of him when I go to work and college and my parents aren't available to keep an eye on him.

I'm starting to wonder if maybe he's autistic or has some kind of developmental disorder? I myself have OCD and his biological father has severe psychological problems, I don't know if they are related to autism or not though. My son is very sweet deep down and I know that because sometimes he is so affectionate and gentle, maybe he is just frustrated because he can't express himself the right way? Should I ask his doctor and maybe get him some kind of evaluation?

Thanks for your help.

Carly

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  • SexyTeacher
    February 3, 2013 at 5:55 AM

    I didn't see the other post but...how old is your son? Does he ever see his father? Is the another male figure in his life? He could have an anger problem or even IED-Intermittent Explosive Disorder, which is uncontrollable rage. He could need therapy and possibly medication.

  • carly1993
    February 3, 2013 at 5:58 AM

    He's five years old and no, I don't allow his father to see him. My own dad is a part of his life but he doesn't open up to my parents that much. I'm the only person he's really affectionate towards and that's only when I'm lucky.

  • emmy526
    by emmy526
    February 3, 2013 at 7:19 AM

    Didn't the school he can't go to,  due to his behavior recommend an evaluation to see what's going on? Or did you decide yourself he can't go to school?  Sounds like he should have been evaluated a long time ago.  There is a lot more going on than mere frustration, esp since some problems are genetic.   Have him tested...you are doing him no favors by allowing him to live like this, unable to get along with anyone. 

  • jhslove
    by jhslove
    February 3, 2013 at 7:32 AM

    I agree with this. Get him evaluated--especially if there's a history of psychological problems on both sides, since mental illness can often be inherited. The earlier you find out what's going on, the sooner you can get him the help he needs, tailored to his specific condition, which can significantly improve the outlook for his life..


    Quoting emmy526:

    Didn't the school he can't go to,  due to his behavior recommend an evaluation to see what's going on? Or did you decide yourself he can't go to school?  Sounds like he should have been evaluated a long time ago.  There is a lot more going on than mere frustration, esp since some problems are genetic.   Have him tested...you are doing him no favors by allowing him to live like this, unable to get along with anyone. 



  • ruggy03
    by ruggy03
    February 3, 2013 at 9:10 AM
    Please do not hesitate.take him to a doctor have them refer you to what kind of specialist he needs.5 is a really hard age your not a baby your not a big kid,schools now a days suck when it comes to behavior problems.But mental diaorders are in the genes and they get passed very easily one way or another.Please for him...
  • ThinkAgainMom
    February 3, 2013 at 9:21 AM

    You need a "Developmental Pediatrician".  If your son has a regular pediatrician, they can recommend one in your area.  If your son is kindergarten age in your state, a school district cannot simply refuse to educate him, they MUST provide whatever accomodations are necessary, including putting him in a special classroom, if necessary. This is a federal LAW.  If he was not Kindergarten age when this school year began, he can still be evaluated through your school district because they need to be prepared to serve him this coming fall.  You can call the school district's central office and ask to speak to the person in charge of Special Education.  That person should be able to help you.

  • SexyTeacher
    February 3, 2013 at 12:22 PM

     


    Quoting ThinkAgainMom:

    You need a "Developmental Pediatrician".  If your son has a regular pediatrician, they can recommend one in your area.  If your son is kindergarten age in your state, a school district cannot simply refuse to educate him, they MUST provide whatever accomodations are necessary, including putting him in a special classroom, if necessary. This is a federal LAW.  If he was not Kindergarten age when this school year began, he can still be evaluated through your school district because they need to be prepared to serve him this coming fall.  You can call the school district's central office and ask to speak to the person in charge of Special Education.  That person should be able to help you.

    Ditto about the law. It is called "a free and appropriate education for ALL school age children." One of my students was out of control and had a 1 on 1 in the classroom.

     

  • JasonsMom2007
    February 3, 2013 at 12:28 PM
    My 5 year old can be the same way. He has sensory processing disorder (which can set off the behavior), impulse control disorder, and anxiety disorder. The other day he tried to push me down the stairs then I put him in his room for everybody's protection and he was screaming "I hate you" and throwing things. He didn't even remember it when he calmed down.
  • mcarsel89
    February 3, 2013 at 12:44 PM

    I am a special education teacher, you really should have had him evaluated a long time ago. Early intervention is best. But, it's not too late. You need to have your son evaluated by a professional. People think all signs point to autism a lot and it's just not the case. Yes, autistic children get angry and physically harm themselves and others, but so do children that have other disorders. My niece used to act this way until she was five because she saw her father behave irrationally so she thought it was normal. It's different in every case, please don't assume autism. It may be that, but he needs to be evaluated by a professional and intervention needs to begin asap.They will evaluate his language skills, his separation behavior, whether or not he "pretend" plays, how he is about touch, what happens before and after he becomes angry, ect.. a good professional will do that. You HAVE to be an advocate for your child, especially ones with special needs. Make sure you get several opinions and if you are not happy with something, voice it. There are too many people who work with special needs children because they think it will be easy and they get into it and find out it is surprisingly hard, so they don't do anything. Make sure you are an advocate and fight for your baby.

  • frstldyhmsch
    February 4, 2013 at 11:13 AM

    Hey momma, the best thing you can do for him is get him tested. Express your concerns & his goings on with the doctor so that both of you can make plans according to your DS's frustration. Someone expressing anger does not mean that they are autistic.

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