As I explained before, my son is very hurtful towards me, both physically and verbally, and he also hurts other children so he can't go to school and doesn't have any playmates. It took me forever to find a babysitter patient enough to take care of him when I go to work and college and my parents aren't available to keep an eye on him.
I'm starting to wonder if maybe he's autistic or has some kind of developmental disorder? I myself have OCD and his biological father has severe psychological problems, I don't know if they are related to autism or not though. My son is very sweet deep down and I know that because sometimes he is so affectionate and gentle, maybe he is just frustrated because he can't express himself the right way? Should I ask his doctor and maybe get him some kind of evaluation?
I think you should make an appointment with his pediatritian. Discuss what is going on and the doctor should be able to offer advice and do some evaluating. It's not fair for either of you for him to be so angry all the time. Good luck!
Back where I moved from you can get an educational evaluation & a medical eval for Autism/other problems. I would HIGHLY recommend you seek out whichever one is faster to obtain there. Will keep you & he in my prayers.