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So mad, ex killed lot of cats while my kids were over for a visit. *Update in red*
January 28, 2013 at 8:19 AM

So angry at the moment. My youngest DD has emotional and behavioral issues and has just now this weekend started being able to go back to her dads for daytime visits (no over nights) while my oldest DD has been spending every other weekend at her dads. (Youngest didnt deal well with his new much older wife and her moving her grown children and her grandchildren in to his house. Partly because when my girls are at his house that makes 11 people in a 3 bedroom trailer but thats a whole nother story lol)   They came home last night telling me that their dad killed about 10 of their pet cats because they were sick and only 4 cats are still alive(yes he had a LOT of  cats and about as many dogs).  They did not take them to the vet, he doesn't ever take any pet to a vet, even one that broke its leg he just duct taped it.  Instead he took his rifle out and slaughtered them all.  While my kids were at his house.  True they were inside the house but they still knew what was going on.  Their step mother told them she "didnt believe in giving animals chemicals" and that they "lived free so should die free"  Can I say wth?  We live in a rural part of the county, there is not an ASPCA  that I know of in the county so I cant turn him in there.. Not sure what to do exactly.. I already have a call in to my girls counsleor/therapist so she can help with dealing with emotions.  Had a talk with the girls regarding that is not an approriate way to treat an animal.  They have watched animal cops on animal planet before so I asked them what would happen to someone on that show if they did what their dad did.  We ourselves recently had to take our dog to the vet after another dog was in our yard and attacked him, causing an eye injury that resulted in having to remove his eye, so I know at home we are teaching them the right way to care for a sick or injured pet.  I called him and told him that was not right at all but what the hell was he doing it when the kids are there.  Not sure what to do from this point.. I feel like he needs to be punished but I do not feel that calling the sherrifs office will do anything much more that stir up  trouble.  There are no leash laws, people let their dogs roam free, and a lot of people out here think the proper way to deal with a sick animal is to kill it.  Any advice on dealing with this kind of situation?

*Update*   I went to the closest humane society today and told them about what happened and asked what could be done..  They told me they have nothing to do with that kind of thing, but that I could contact the sherrifs office.. They also told me that unless the bodies were found then 99% probablility of nothing being done about it.. An investigation *might* be opened but that most likely nothing would happen to him,  That being the case I am making sure the kids are taken care of emotionally.  They talked to the theraphist today.. It has been documented in their file, if wind up going to court over custody it will be brought up to show that it is an additional reason that the environement over there is not approriate for them to be there.  We also talked again about there are doctors for sick animals just like for people and that we would continue being good pet parents and making sure that our pets got treatment when they need it.  As far as contacting the sherrifs office I do not think it will do any good and will only make things worse in the long run.. I will just have to content myself with the fact that after I found out what happened I called him and chewed him out about it..  

One final thought.. to the ones that beleive that chasing the cats down and shooting them instead of the cost of vet, and that he might think this is approriate way of taking care of them.. IF that was what he felt HAD to be done, my 2 kids are over there for 2 days...out of 14 days in a 2 week period they are there 2 days..the cats did not just now become sick, he could have picked any other day rather than Sat or Sunday  while they were there to do it.. matter of fact he brought them back @ 5pm on Sunday, he could have done it after he brought them back.


  • Mommy2justone
    January 28, 2013 at 9:02 AM

    Wow....I would call the police and find out how to file animal cruelty charges against him. They were your children's pets and that caused them great distress. 

    by AM-BRAT
    January 28, 2013 at 9:49 AM

    Wow.  :(

    It is normal to deal with animals that way for some people. How do you think people did it before vets?

    BUT, if it really really bothers you and the kids I hope you find something to do about it. 

  • N_maricle
    January 28, 2013 at 10:53 AM

    If you contact animal control, he can get in big trouble for animal abuse. Honestly, he might even receive child endangerment charges for discharging a weapon awhile children where nearby, but I believe that depends on state law. Personally I wouldn't allow my kids over there, but of you have a custody order, it might not be that easy. Good luck, sorry your kiddos went through that. :(

  • LDavis33
    January 28, 2013 at 11:11 AM

    There are a lot of people out there who view animals as companions and sentient beings capable of emotions.  And there are a lot of people out there who view animals as nothing more than... well, animals.  And we treat them accordingly.  

    I am one of the former (i have no problem paying a $400 vet bill to save my cat), but I know several people who lean more towards the latter.  You can't change their way of thinking.  All you can do now is deal with the aftermath and try to instill your values in your daughters.

    If you did contact the authorities, I doubt that he would be charged with animal abuse.  While I can't imagine shooting a pet, that really doesn't fall into the category of abuse.  He was, in his mind, putting them out of their misery.

  • Lindalou907
    January 28, 2013 at 11:15 AM

    OMG, that's awful, if they love their Dad and want to keep going over there then I guess you deal with it through counseling and teaching them that you think it was wrong but that that's how some people deal with sick animals. If you think they should only have supervised visits or no visits then you call CPS and go from there.

  • breebree04
    January 28, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    wow, I cant believe anyone would do that to one of their childrens pets. That had to be devastating to them. How did he know that they were that sick without taking them to a vet, maybe they just needed medication. He should have taken them to the human society if he couldnt afford treatment and they would have treated them or put them down if needed. I couldnt imagine breaking my childs heart like that, thats just sick that someone would do that to a pet. I dont know if you can do anything or not but if it was me and my children I would look into it and try to do something so he doesnt do this again

  • Bleacheddecay
    January 28, 2013 at 12:04 PM

    I would absolutely call the police if there were not humane society or anything to call. That's horrible. My dad killed one of my cats who had distemper and one of my dogs because he annoyed the neighbors. Its devastating to know your own father would do that. I hated him for a long time for that. He lied about the dog but I found the body. It was horrible.

    The way your ex and his new whatever she is are doing it, it is abuse. They don't get any help for their animals. That's crap. There are places they can go for free or reduced health care for their pets but they are so horrible they don't bother. It's ignorance and a lack of empathy.

    I'm so glad your girls are in therapy to help with this because it's tough to know your father and his whatever are such nasty, uncaring creatures. Also glad you can show them how to properly care for pets.

  • Mimee1971
    January 28, 2013 at 12:17 PM

    Call the animal law enforcement people, they will take care of it.  If you want me to I WILL???

  • x_Starr_x
    January 28, 2013 at 12:21 PM
    your ex is sick keep Ur kids away from him
  • sucker4myloves
    January 28, 2013 at 12:24 PM

    Sounds like your ex is a half-retarded country idiot. I'm country, but I am smart. He is country, and he sounds inbred. I don't know if you should keep your kids away or not, but I don't think that's a place I'd allow my children to be. Eleven people in a three bedroom is enough for me to say  no.

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