Personally I wouldnt ask for money-I think it's kind of crass but thats just me-but Ive found that the best way to avoid toys (my kids have tons, too) is to simply suggest other things. Im constantly telling people books because my boys love books, and I send my grandparents (who like to buy random stuff) lists of the books they dont have. It's been working great! And when I do get toys from people who dont listen, I let them play with them for a while and when they get bored (unless they love the toy) I sell it and get them something they actually need or put it in their banks.