My daughter is currently in girl scouts. I met her leader at our kids school. She is a very nice person and we talked a while about my daughter joining her troop. Once a week all the girls meet the leader after school and they all walk to her house where the meetings are held. The first day when I went to pick up my daughter I was just blown away when I walked into her house. The house isn't just cluttered and messy but discustingly dirty. I thought to myself, maybe she was in the middle of spring cleaning or something????? I asked my daughter how the meeting went and she mentioned how filthy the house was. Anyway, she has gone to 4 other meetings and the house is still the same. It is literally not a sanitary environment and I really don't want my daughter to be over there any more. The thing is, is that one of her good friends at school is in her troop and she likes being with her and I don't want to take her away from that. At the same time I do not want my daughter in that house. I can't just tell the leader that my daughter won't be in her troop anymore because her house is discusting. She is a really nice person and I don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I get my daughter out of the troop? It is the only troop in our city.
I would talk to her and offer a different space if it is truely that bad. A disGusting , dirty place is not a safe area to have meetings. Maybe offer to help the woman on a non meeting day to help her clean the house.
What kind of dirt are we talking about? Like feces? Because I think your daughter's going to really miss out on a lot of fun and learning if you pull her out. In my experience the messy moms are the most fun for kids. Plus, you want to model tolerance for your little girl. Unless it's truly dangerous over there just keep quiet.
If you have voiced your concern over the dirt in front of your dd she will most likely repeat your concerns and reason for pulling her out so I don't think you can do it without the leader knowing. I would contact the organization and ask that the leader clean her house before the kids come.