@ OP: My step mom is 20 years older than me and 17 years older than my brother. She doesn't have kids of her own and refers to us as her children. So at her school reunion when she was asked how many kids, she said 2. The question: How old? Obviously raised a couple of eyebrows... She obviously wasn't pregnant in school. Lol! She just left them at that. It has nothing to do with them in anyway... JMO ;)
I see what you are saying, but I guess it depends on how they ask. If they ask how long you are married or when then I'll tell them that if they day how long have you been together then I'll tell them that and we got married X years ago.
If someone specifically asks how long we have been married, I say 5 years. We've lived together for 10 years though and view marriage as a piece of paper. We only married because we wanted to have children and agreed it would be better for them to be married first. So I say we've been together 10 years in general conversation.
My husband and I have been married going on 23 YEARS! He is my lover, best friend, the person I first want to see in the morning, the last at night. Like all lovers, we ran hot for each other a long time! Now that has melted into something nicer, sweeter. Were not doing it all night long...but you know when the fire is really spiked up, thats neat. However, as you tend to a fire and you get that long burn at the bottom, the stuff that is the hottest and there to stay...that is what its like being married this long. Once in awhile, we throw a long or two on there and get it kinda raging. For the most part, I like that slow burn kinda fire!