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dogsrezrr
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December 31, 2012 at 3:11 PM

teenager turned 18 nightmare.  where do I fit in now?

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  • jabs54
    by jabs54
    December 31, 2012 at 3:42 PM

     You'll have to be more specific.

  • Mom2Just1
    December 31, 2012 at 5:13 PM
    Your post makes no sense.
  • dogsrezrr
    December 31, 2012 at 9:07 PM

    sorry to be so unclear, now that my child has turned 18 she believes she can do whatever she pleases. I thought I knew better but apparently she is correct. I can't toss her out for sneaking boys in and out or at least that is what the school, the police and child protective services tell me. If . she got pregnant  I would .be held responsible for the infant as well. If she moved out I would be expected to pay for the roof over her head for all medical care as well as any other living expenses.  If she got into legal problems I would be held responsible for her behavior and provide legal expenses.  It seems  like she can do what she wants now that she is 18, but I am still held responsible and pay the consequences for her "adult" choices yet I no longer have any authority to prevent bad choices. I thought I raised her to be better prepared for this, but it is like she has . forgotten everything she learned. I feel helpless, powerless and so frustrated. I don't know this new person she has become and I don't know how I fit into her life any more.

  • jesuschild06
    December 31, 2012 at 9:13 PM
    ummm woah wait? Where the heck do you live? Unless she has some serious mental illnesses i dont see why you would be responsible. I have never heard of that. And even then.... If she has serious mental illnesses and 150% disrespects you, you still have a right to discipline or kick her out (though that could be cruel) or send her to a special home.


    Quoting dogsrezrr:

    sorry to be so unclear, now that my child has turned 18 she believes she can do whatever she pleases. I thought I knew better but apparently she is correct. I can't toss her out for sneaking boys in and out or at least that is what the school, the police and child protective services tell me. If . she got pregnant  I would .be held responsible for the infant as well. If she moved out I would be expected to pay for the roof over her head for all medical care as well as any other living expenses.  If she got into legal problems I would be held responsible for her behavior and provide legal expenses.  It seems  like she can do what she wants now that she is 18, but I am still held responsible and pay the consequences for her "adult" choices yet I no longer have any authority to prevent bad choices. I thought I raised her to be better prepared for this, but it is like she has . forgotten everything she learned. I feel helpless, powerless and so frustrated. I don't know this new person she has become and I don't know how I fit into her life any more.


  • x_Starr_x
    December 31, 2012 at 9:16 PM
    yeah Idk where u live but um USA law is 18 Ur an adult your NOT responsible for her anymore.


    Quoting dogsrezrr:

    sorry to be so unclear, now that my child has turned 18 she believes she can do whatever she pleases. I thought I knew better but apparently she is correct. I can't toss her out for sneaking boys in and out or at least that is what the school, the police and child protective services tell me. If . she got pregnant  I would .be held responsible for the infant as well. If she moved out I would be expected to pay for the roof over her head for all medical care as well as any other living expenses.  If she got into legal problems I would be held responsible for her behavior and provide legal expenses.  It seems  like she can do what she wants now that she is 18, but I am still held responsible and pay the consequences for her "adult" choices yet I no longer have any authority to prevent bad choices. I thought I raised her to be better prepared for this, but it is like she has . forgotten everything she learned. I feel helpless, powerless and so frustrated. I don't know this new person she has become and I don't know how I fit into her life any more.


  • Lindalou907
    December 31, 2012 at 9:16 PM

    I thought they were considered adults at 18, what a joke that is, but I think you ARE allowed to evict her from your home if she's making poor decisions.

  • Lindalou907
    December 31, 2012 at 9:17 PM

    By the way, don't give up hope, they do a LOT of maturing the next few years and things will probably get better. I would get her that implanted kind of birth control if I were you.

  • atlmom2
    by atlmom2
    December 31, 2012 at 9:18 PM
    Kick her out.
  • snowangel1979
    December 31, 2012 at 9:27 PM
    I agree where do you live?
    Here when your 18,your parents can say hit the road. When you turn 18 your responsible for your own self. Legally and finances.

    Seriously, the police and protective services told you that. I would have told P.S that you'd like them to take her then. They can't because she's an adult.

    If you still have to be responsible for her then don't make it so easy. A couple nails on her windows and take the door right off the hinges. Clear out her room and tell her to get a job if she wants the extras. Door gets locked at a certain time. If she's not home that's not your problem.
    You are not responsible for her after she turns 18.




    Quoting dogsrezrr:

    sorry to be so unclear, now that my child has turned 18 she believes she can do whatever she pleases. I thought I knew better but apparently she is correct. I can't toss her out for sneaking boys in and out or at least that is what the school, the police and child protective services tell me. If . she got pregnant  I would .be held responsible for the infant as well. If she moved out I would be expected to pay for the roof over her head for all medical care as well as any other living expenses.  If she got into legal problems I would be held responsible for her behavior and provide legal expenses.  It seems  like she can do what she wants now that she is 18, but I am still held responsible and pay the consequences for her "adult" choices yet I no longer have any authority to prevent bad choices. I thought I raised her to be better prepared for this, but it is like she has . forgotten everything she learned. I feel helpless, powerless and so frustrated. I don't know this new person she has become and I don't know how I fit into her life any more.


  • hippiechik3
    December 31, 2012 at 10:01 PM

    Find something that makes you happy an go for it. A mother, good or bad, is always needed.

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