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Anniesmom1020
Advice please
November 17, 2012 at 10:30 PM

My 7 year old son has some mental problems like ADHD and others. He is on medication and goes to therapy but it doesn't seem to help. He is very aggressive to his older and younger sister, steals, lies, hides food he doesn't like and I find it molding in his room, pees and poops himself when he gets upset to prove a point,  slammed his for year old sister's finger in the door and the more she cried the harder he tried to shut it. It took the top of her finger right off and he didn't seem to care. Doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom picking his nose and eating it and Etc. I don't know what to do anymore. He is to the point that no matter what I do for punishment he doesn't change or stop. He won't listen or follow the rules. What do I do with him? I love him don't get me wrong but I don't know what to do. My cousin is kind of the same way and is in a group home. Is that what my son needs? Everyone I ask says the don't know. Please help me!!!

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  • marchantmom06
    November 17, 2012 at 10:33 PM
    Umm that is NOT ADHD. So I would have him evaluated and put him in behavioral therapy. If he is physically hurting your other child then maybe an impatient program.
  • stargazerwolf
    November 17, 2012 at 10:37 PM

    What else does he have besides ADHD? Alls I can say is talk to a doctors that really know about his specific conditions. I know that ADHD doesn't cause those behaviors, so there must be something else. Maybe a child phsycologist could help you out. I wish I could help you out more, but if doctors or phsycologists can't really help, looking for other groups online for people with kids with the same conditions.

  • Anniesmom1020
    November 17, 2012 at 10:41 PM

    The doctor says he is also a cognitive thinker and in his mind can do whatever he wants. I'm not getting any answers from the doctors.

  • lauren11988
    November 17, 2012 at 10:56 PM

    I used to know a kid like that.. We tried everything but nothing worked.. Then the family decided to send him some kinda of military school or something.. When i next saw him he was like an angel.. 

    And its definitely not ADHD. My dads a doctor. A pediatrician.. 

  • CoeyG
    by CoeyG
    November 17, 2012 at 11:51 PM

    And what are you doing when he displays this behavior?  What are you doing to discipline him?

  • emmy526
    by emmy526
    November 18, 2012 at 6:51 AM

    sounds like his drs have their heads up their ass, and you should be taking him to a child behavior specialist who knows what they're doing.  Are there any big teaching hospitals around?  What kind of area and resources do you have?  Keep getting opinions on this until you are satisfied...if you can't get any answers, try social services for help and/or referrals

  • Anniesmom1020
    November 18, 2012 at 1:21 PM

    I have tried time outs, taking stuff away tv, toys, talking to him, spanking him everything. At first he might say that he is sorry and he won't do it again  but with in 2 min he's back to doing what he did before.

  • emmy526
    by emmy526
    November 18, 2012 at 2:02 PM

    sounds like he has ODD to me....Oppositional Defiance Disorder

    Quoting Anniesmom1020:

    I have tried time outs, taking stuff away tv, toys, talking to him, spanking him everything. At first he might say that he is sorry and he won't do it again  but with in 2 min he's back to doing what he did before.


  • lauren11988
    November 18, 2012 at 6:19 PM


    Quoting CoeyG:

    And what are you doing when he displays this behavior?  What are you doing to discipline him?


    Well i dont exactly know if what we did was right or wrong but it did seem to work a little.. We just completely ignored him.. Pretended as if he wasnt even there and that nothing even happened.. 

    Most kids at that age will do anything to get a little bit of attention. So we thought that if we completely ignored him then he would calm down.

  • atlmom2
    by atlmom2
    November 18, 2012 at 6:24 PM
    This, have to find discipline that works.


    Quoting emmy526:

    sounds like he has ODD to me....Oppositional Defiance Disorder


    Quoting Anniesmom1020:

    I have tried time outs, taking stuff away tv, toys, talking to him, spanking him everything. At first he might say that he is sorry and he won't do it again  but with in 2 min he's back to doing what he did before.



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