Advice for Moms
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What kind of things have y'all tried? As far as the bathroom thing have you tried giving her money if you goes to bathroom? -
Maybe it would help to have her evaluated. She might have an issues like ADHD. If so, you could get some coping tips and help.
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We when she was yoinger tried m&ms we habe lately changed to money getting to have friends over habe a reward chart. She is chaotic constantly on the move listens to eveeyone but me extremely whiny. We also are consistent with timeouts and we have taken toys away tv away when she misbehaves i have just not found anything thay works
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Have you discussed the prbolems with her doctor?
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It sounds like she's trying to get attention even if it's negative attention. I agree with the others, you might want to talk to her doctor.
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Quoting Bleacheddecay:
Maybe it would help to have her evaluated. She might have an issues like ADHD. If so, you could get some coping tips and help.
She sounds like my foster son, who has some behavioral disorder(s). Still don't have a final diagnosis, but we're working on it. I totally know what you mean about feeling like your other child isn't getting the attention she should. I feel like that a lot of the time. I just have to make a really big point of forcing myself to give the other kids individual attention, even if sometimes that means my foster son makes a huge mess that I'll have to take care of later. It's hard because he is VERY demanding and knows exactly what not to do and seems to actually take pleasure in doing it. But I have to make sure the other kids don't get left out just because he's acting out.
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That sounds just like
My daughter she knows what not to do does it anyway and seems to take pleasure in it. I try to make sure my other daughter gets one on pne time but it doesnt feel like its enough i know she sometimes gets lost in the shuffle
Quoting georgeisfun:
This:
Quoting Bleacheddecay:
Maybe it would help to have her evaluated. She might have an issues like ADHD. If so, you could get some coping tips and help.
She sounds like my foster son, who has some behavioral disorder(s). Still don't have a final diagnosis, but we're working on it. I totally know what you mean about feeling like your other child isn't getting the attention she should. I feel like that a lot of the time. I just have to make a really big point of forcing myself to give the other kids individual attention, even if sometimes that means my foster son makes a huge mess that I'll have to take care of later. It's hard because he is VERY demanding and knows exactly what not to do and seems to actually take pleasure in doing it. But I have to make sure the other kids don't get left out just because he's acting out.
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Do you want the behavior to stop or at the very least improve?
This is what I suggest and I also did the same thing with my son who is now 6yrs old and use to drive me nuts from the age of 3-5.
In the beginning it's going to seem impossible, I must warn you.
Here it is.... reward and praise all good behavior. In the beginning it's going to be difficult to point out good behavior because by this point your so aware of her negative behavior. And make a big deal about it !!!! When she does use the potty praise her. Buy some stickers and cheap dollar toys to give out when she accumulates three stars. Give the chart another chance, when done right it works. And there self esteem builds and they want to do better. Because they realize that they can get positive attention. Of course it will take time to correct this. Do the same with her twin, it's a matter of time before the other child starts acting out.
I would also talk to her doctor, just be ware that they are sometimes quick to medicate. One hour of exersise replaces most meds that they can give her. It releases certain brain chemicals that act the same as meds. Put her in something physical like karate, or whatever you can think of. It sounds like she really needs a self esteem boost. And this will help with that also.
Quoting prettymama72106:
We when she was yoinger tried m&ms we habe lately changed to money getting to have friends over habe a reward chart. She is chaotic constantly on the move listens to eveeyone but me extremely whiny. We also are consistent with timeouts and we have taken toys away tv away when she misbehaves i have just not found anything thay works -
Sje is in cheerleading and dance and we have as much outside time as we can we have a structured routine each day and we do yoga to to try and help her calm down when she gets to hyper and cant relax she also doesnt sleep she from the time she was small will only sleep for three hour bkocks and xan run all day off of it. Talked to the dr about that but they arent concerned because so many other family members are like that. I will talk to dr i dont want her medicated if possible jist want to know if something is wrong what i can do to make things better
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I have a chart and we have a basket of small prizes she can pick from when she gets so many stars it helped a little but not much because she doesnt really care thats why we moved to bigger rewards lile having a friwnd over and such we tried to find things she cared more about
Quoting yperez0209:
Do you want the behavior to stop or at the very least improve?
This is what I suggest and I also did the same thing with my son who is now 6yrs old and use to drive me nuts from the age of 3-5.
In the beginning it's going to seem impossible, I must warn you.
Here it is.... reward and praise all good behavior. In the beginning it's going to be difficult to point out good behavior because by this point your so aware of her negative behavior. And make a big deal about it !!!! When she does use the potty praise her. Buy some stickers and cheap dollar toys to give out when she accumulates three stars. Give the chart another chance, when done right it works. And there self esteem builds and they want to do better. Because they realize that they can get positive attention. Of course it will take time to correct this. Do the same with her twin, it's a matter of time before the other child starts acting out.
I would also talk to her doctor, just be ware that they are sometimes quick to medicate. One hour of exersise replaces most meds that they can give her. It releases certain brain chemicals that act the same as meds. Put her in something physical like karate, or whatever you can think of. It sounds like she really needs a self esteem boost. And this will help with that also.
Quoting prettymama72106:
We when she was yoinger tried m&ms we habe lately changed to money getting to have friends over habe a reward chart. She is chaotic constantly on the move listens to eveeyone but me extremely whiny. We also are consistent with timeouts and we have taken toys away tv away when she misbehaves i have just not found anything thay works