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I'm the child of a gay parent.......
by Dee0886
February 28, 2013 at 1:27 PM

ASK ME ANYTHING!

There seems to be much debate over the well being of kids of gay parents..my mother got into a relationship with a woman when I was 12, my brothers were 7 and 2. My bio father was s shitty husband and father. My stepmother treat my mother with love and respect and I believe my brothers and myself have a very healthy outlook on relationships.. I was also raised in a very small, Christian town in the south...and no, I am not gay or "want" to be gay or have ever "wanted" to be with another woman. I was never directly or indirectly "taught" to be gay, I was however taught to love and respect who you are with. I found my husband, fell in love with my husband, and we have a very good marriage.

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  • TruthSeeker.
    February 28, 2013 at 2:07 PM

      So before this woman came along your mother never felt that she was gay? Just curious.

    Quoting Dee0886:

    Lots of ?'s in one lol...ok..well here goes:

    No it wasn't difficult because most of the people in that town knew my parents. There were the ignorant few that mistreated them or us simply because they were gay. But a vast majority of the community know them, and know they are loving, good hearted people. Thankfully my mothers taught me about ignorance at an early age and that blacks and biracial people are treated the same with the almost the same argument against it. Unfortunately adutls are much worse than kids. My stepmother is religious (a southern baptist republican no less..no idea how she does it to be honest lol), my mother is not religious.

    My mother says she found someone who loves her and treats her well and fell in love with this person, it just so happened this person was a woman. I never questioned it because who am I, or anyone else, to judge or question her love? No one ever questions mine and my husbands.

    Quoting TruthSeeker.:

     Being from a small southern Christian town was it difficult being in a home with two lesbians? Were you treated poorly by other children? Were you bullied by other kids? Adults? Did your family go to church? Were/are they religious?

     Do you believe your mother started dating women because of her bad relationship with her husband or do you think she was always gay and afraid to be who she was?


     

  • Dee0886
    by Dee0886
    February 28, 2013 at 2:07 PM

    It's the closed minded ones of every religion and walk of life..the non religious people who are afraid every gay person is going to hit on them..or the religious people who..well you know their argument lol.

    And as for beastiality being compared to homosexuality...even more ridiculous then the pedophile arguement..those two arguements just, to me anyway, makes the person making that arguement look incredibly stupid I wanna pat them on the head and tell them it's gonna be ok.

    Quoting DragonMother10:

    One of the many reasons why I am an Atheist, I see a lot of closed minded religious people who are against gays. I am 100% straight, but I believe people are entitled to love whoever they want. I am disturbed with people having sex with animals. At least gays have sex with the same species.


  • Jenniy
    by Jenniy
    February 28, 2013 at 2:07 PM

    Me too! She was single until my brother and I were older, then she told us when she found her now ex.  They were together 7 years.  She's single now though.

  • Dee0886
    by Dee0886
    February 28, 2013 at 2:09 PM

    Thankfully my mom is a very open person to talk to so I was able to talk about this with her. She honestly never really thought about it one way or the other. The thought to be with or not to be with a woman was never really brought up

    Quoting TruthSeeker.:

      So before this woman came along your mother never felt that she was gay? Just curious.

    Quoting Dee0886:

    Lots of ?'s in one lol...ok..well here goes:

    No it wasn't difficult because most of the people in that town knew my parents. There were the ignorant few that mistreated them or us simply because they were gay. But a vast majority of the community know them, and know they are loving, good hearted people. Thankfully my mothers taught me about ignorance at an early age and that blacks and biracial people are treated the same with the almost the same argument against it. Unfortunately adutls are much worse than kids. My stepmother is religious (a southern baptist republican no less..no idea how she does it to be honest lol), my mother is not religious.

    My mother says she found someone who loves her and treats her well and fell in love with this person, it just so happened this person was a woman. I never questioned it because who am I, or anyone else, to judge or question her love? No one ever questions mine and my husbands.

    Quoting TruthSeeker.:

     Being from a small southern Christian town was it difficult being in a home with two lesbians? Were you treated poorly by other children? Were you bullied by other kids? Adults? Did your family go to church? Were/are they religious?

     Do you believe your mother started dating women because of her bad relationship with her husband or do you think she was always gay and afraid to be who she was?


     


  • amylovesnick07
    February 28, 2013 at 2:10 PM
    I was raised by my gay dad. Couldn't have asked for a better dad. My mom was abusive. Gay people can be wonderful parents as well. I don't know why some people are against them being parents.
  • TruthSeeker.
    February 28, 2013 at 2:11 PM

     Oh, also, you said your step-mom is southern baptist. I'm curious if she attends a church and how that goes? My best friend is southern baptist and I'm not too sure a lesbian couple would be welcome in her church.

     Does your step-mom, being southern baptist, believe that homosexuality is a sin?

     

  • Dee0886
    by Dee0886
    February 28, 2013 at 2:13 PM

    Yes but it has nothing to do with gay or straight. More straight married men with children are more likely to be child molesters. Some people believe pedophilia is just another sexual orientation and the only difference is age of consent....I'm not even touching that subject lol

    Quoting DragonMother10:

    I think they associate the two because some child molestations is done by a man to a boy.


    Quoting Dee0886:

    how homosexuality and pedophilia are always put together I will honeslty never ever understand...

    Quoting IhaveHisjoy:

     I was asked very recently by a cousin if I think my dad molested my brother...what??? He's gay, not a child molester!


    Quoting Dee0886:


    I think I may be so use to the bashing (how sad is that) it barely phases me.


    However they are still my mothers, and as any person would be, I would think, sometimes it does make me angry. The worst is when an argument came up that my brothers and I should be taken away because we were molested by them and we're somehow supressing memories of it....that was the most hurtful and infuriating thing I have ever come across. 


    Quoting Laao:




    I think it's impossible to change a heart and mind that is so deeply closed. So instead of trying with the extreme closed, I think our best work is with folks who are confused, but open.


    What would I say? I'd take a deeeeeeep breath and say...


    "Gay or straight makes no difference to me. Kind, open-minded people make a difference to me.  Instead, let's ship off any pastor who makes such ignorant remarks. Oh, and the next island over is for Senator Todd Akins who think a woman's body will shut down during a "legitamate rape."






     




  • IhaveHisjoy
    February 28, 2013 at 2:13 PM

     Oh you got some good questions going on...

    Quoting TruthSeeker.:

     Oh, also, you said your step-mom is southern baptist. I'm curious if she attends a church and how that goes? My best friend is southern baptist and I'm not too sure a lesbian couple would be welcome in her church.

     Does your step-mom, being southern baptist, believe that homosexuality is a sin?

     

     

  • TruthSeeker.
    February 28, 2013 at 2:13 PM

     That is really odd. I don't mean that offensively. I've just never met someone that was gay that didn't know it. Most people argue that being gay in something you are born with.

    Quoting Dee0886:

    Thankfully my mom is a very open person to talk to so I was able to talk about this with her. She honestly never really thought about it one way or the other. The thought to be with or not to be with a woman was never really brought up

    Quoting TruthSeeker.:

      So before this woman came along your mother never felt that she was gay? Just curious.

  • NewMom11222011
    February 28, 2013 at 2:15 PM


    Quoting jhslove:

    If you were to encounter this woman on the street and you could say anything to her, what would you say?


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