any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit
of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you
just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess
from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill
depended on how well-behaved your children were?
A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.
But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.
you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children
aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be
standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?
Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents.
Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all
eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are
out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves
for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs
to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without
parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just
aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are
making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a
break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be
all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really
want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always
deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.
it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it
through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.
Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?
I don't think this is fair at all, though maybe this is the restaurants way of dealing with children. Probably they really don't want anyone with very young children or children with special needs dining at their establishment. But they can't very well say that, so they give this good child discount instead.
Our son can have some really challenging behavior, however he's usually very well-behaved at restaurants. That said, I still wouldn't patronize this restaurant.
I wouldn't want someone with no knowledge of child development deciding the difference between good behavior and bad behavior. Aside from the fact that a stranger has no business placing a value judgement on a child, behavior isn't good or bad, it's developmentally appropriate or developmentally inappropriate.