30 Something Moms

Featured Posts
staceyp6180
i dont know where else to go for opinions
May 11, 2013 at 3:58 PM
Ok, here's my situation. I have a 12 year old son. Me and his father split up in 2008. I went for custody while we were still together. I was with my sons father for 8 years and he sat on his ass the whole time. I raised my son I worked I went back to school all while this man sat home on the computer. Anyway, I got sole physical custody and his father got no visitation. He is court ordered to pay $25 a month and he has never made one payment. I honestly don't even want it. Here's where my problem lies. I am now married to a wonderful man who is willing to adopt my son. My son tells me each and everyday that he wants me to change his last name to what mine is (which is my husbands last name). I sent my sons father a polite email asking if he would sign over his rights and he replied rudely telling me no (amongst other things). Is there anything I can do, being that he doesn't pay child support, and hasn't seen his son since 2008. I would love to honor my sons requests but want to do it the right way. Any input is appreciated.

Replies

  • nurse1997
    May 11, 2013 at 4:04 PM

    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck

  • offrdngal
    May 11, 2013 at 4:05 PM

     All you can do is take him to court, to relinquish parental rights.  Then, your husband can petition the court for adoption...if parental rights are revoked.

    That's all that I know, to do.

  • staceyp6180
    May 11, 2013 at 4:06 PM
    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.

    Quoting nurse1997:

    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck

  • staceyp6180
    May 11, 2013 at 4:07 PM
    Thank you for your response

    Quoting offrdngal:

     All you can do is take him to court, to relinquish parental rights.  Then, your husband can petition the court for adoption...if parental rights are revoked.


    That's all that I know, to do.

  • nurse1997
    May 11, 2013 at 4:11 PM

     yes family court, and a family lawyer, but heres the thing if the sperm doner doesnt pay and see the kid he might want to after he has to  start paying the 25 bucks a month  its a gamble  its really hard to get his rights taken away even thou hes not paying 


    Quoting staceyp6180:

    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.

    Quoting nurse1997:

    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck


     

  • mumsy2three
    May 11, 2013 at 4:21 PM

    I would contact a lawyer and start the process to have his parental rights terminated.Let the lawyer know that you haven't received any support from your son's father and that your ex has made no attempt to see or have contact with your son. Not sure how many years have to pass, it was 2 years when my cousin had her son's father's rights terminated.

  • staceyp6180
    May 11, 2013 at 4:21 PM
    He was ordered in 2008 to pay child support and my son has yet to see a dime. I just am having a real hard time with the bullshit, it just doesn't seem fair to me. I have been doing it without him for all these years and I have to get his ok for this, this sucks.

    Quoting nurse1997:

     yes family court, and a family lawyer, but heres the thing if the sperm doner doesnt pay and see the kid he might want to after he has to  start paying the 25 bucks a month  its a gamble  its really hard to get his rights taken away even thou hes not paying 




    Quoting staceyp6180:

    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.


    Quoting nurse1997:


    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck




     

  • nurse1997
    May 11, 2013 at 5:40 PM

     Ya it does but we have such great laws 25 bucks whats that suppose to do wipe your ass good luck doll but dont except  much ;]


    Quoting staceyp6180:

    He was ordered in 2008 to pay child support and my son has yet to see a dime. I just am having a real hard time with the bullshit, it just doesn't seem fair to me. I have been doing it without him for all these years and I have to get his ok for this, this sucks.

    Quoting nurse1997:

     yes family court, and a family lawyer, but heres the thing if the sperm doner doesnt pay and see the kid he might want to after he has to  start paying the 25 bucks a month  its a gamble  its really hard to get his rights taken away even thou hes not paying 


     


    Quoting staceyp6180:

    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.


    Quoting nurse1997:


    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck


     


     


     

  • Bella14308
    May 11, 2013 at 6:47 PM
    In ct its the childrens probate court

    Quoting staceyp6180:

    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.



    Quoting nurse1997:

    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck

  • staceyp6180
    May 12, 2013 at 7:25 PM
    Yea 25 isn't much these days

    Quoting nurse1997:

     Ya it does but we have such great laws 25 bucks whats that suppose to do wipe your ass good luck doll but dont except  much ;]




    Quoting staceyp6180:

    He was ordered in 2008 to pay child support and my son has yet to see a dime. I just am having a real hard time with the bullshit, it just doesn't seem fair to me. I have been doing it without him for all these years and I have to get his ok for this, this sucks.


    Quoting nurse1997:


     yes family court, and a family lawyer, but heres the thing if the sperm doner doesnt pay and see the kid he might want to after he has to  start paying the 25 bucks a month  its a gamble  its really hard to get his rights taken away even thou hes not paying 



     



    Quoting staceyp6180:

    I'm not trying to sound stupid but what court, like family court? And I appreciate your response.



    Quoting nurse1997:



    You will have to  go thru the courts to have his rights terminated first before you can do any thing had the same issue its not easy and you will need a lawyer best to wait till hes 18 the cost adds up good luck



     



     




     

30 Something Moms

Active Posts in All Groups
More Active Posts
Featured Posts in All Groups
More Featured Posts
close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN