30 Something Moms
i have a 12 year old son named kendryck who do not want to do right in school or at home. i am always getting phone calls from his teachers saying that he is not doing his work in class, not turning in his homework, he is acting up in class, and being disrespectful to the teachers. he also got suspended for bringing a bb gun to school. he had to attend a special program at his school for children who act up in school. kendryck also had the nerve to go inside wal-mart and attempt to steal some head phones because his knuckle head friend double dared him to. him and that other boy are no longer friends anymore, i made sure of that ! when he is at home, his attitude towards his father and i is terrible as well. he gets an attitude about anything that you tell him or get him to do. he argues with us constantly and his attitude at life sucks very bad. he treats his younger brother like dirt and i am getting tired of it. he barely wants anything to do with his brother.
so my question to other moms is that if i was thinking about enrolling him in a military school for boys would i be turning my back on my son ? we are doing everything that we are suppose to be doing with him. but nothing that we are doing seems to be working. i really need some advice on this one ladies !
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I'd be sending his Butt to military school -
I don't think that is turning your back, I think it is fighting for him so you don't wind up in a court room a few years from now... Just look real hard at the program and make sure you are comfortable with it in its entirety . -
Ugh! Change your son's name to my son's name, and you would have just described my boy to a T! And he's 12 also!!! If you can afford it, I say go for it! I am contemplating sending my son to live with his biological father....I probably won't because he's a real piece of work and Jacob would end up worse off in my opinion. But, yeah...IT SUCKS!!!! My son is so smart and could really make something of himself if he would just try, but he won't. And he is a horrible influence on his 4 year old brother and sister. They have starting mouthing off to me and my husband and it makes me ill to think that I could end up with three children that act like this! I have a meeting with the principal on Monday to see about getting him into special ed classes that they have resisted for so long because he always does so well on testing...yet he failed 6th grade last year. They actually wanted to pass him on to 7th grade because they didn't want him to feel "different" and out of place if they held him back. And he didn't just fail...he made 20's and 30's each six weeks in each subject and yet they wanted to just push him on to Jr. High. I put my foot down and demanded that he be retained. This year started off okay. He passed all but one subject the first six weeks but has been on a downward spiral ever since. I'm at a loss just like you. Hugs momma!!
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Any idea why he may be acting out? Is it possible that he's being bullied or something similar. When they get to be teens, they do rebel some, but I agree that his behavior seems to be extreme. Have you thought about counseling? That just seems very odd for him to have a solid parental structure and acting out anyway. I don't know much about military schools, but if you feel like that's your only option, then do it. You obviously care and I don't consider that turning your back on your child at all. That's trying to help! Good luck!
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Have you tried counseling for him? Maybe a therapist can get to the bottom of it. Has he always been difficult? Is your husband his bio-dad? And do they get along? Have you tried taking away his favorite things, or privileges, sometimes that works. I don't think it's a terrible thing at all to send him away, but it a last resort and very expensive.
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I agree with this
Quoting Lindalou907:
Have you tried counseling for him? Maybe a therapist can get to the bottom of it. Has he always been difficult? Is your husband his bio-dad? And do they get along? Have you tried taking away his favorite things, or privileges, sometimes that works. I don't think it's a terrible thing at all to send him away, but it a last resort and very expensive.
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Have you looked into counseling yet.
Have you priced the military schools yet LOL. I did, $32,000 a semester for the closest one and it was still out of state. The national guard has one in our state for free but the child has to be 16. -
how much do military schools run in your area? they run about 20 to 30 thousand a year in my state and the only ones are in the southern part of the state. i just wanted to pick up a few brochures to stategically place around the house and cant get any as they are only website. maybe im in the wrong line of work.
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It sounds like an investment into his future. Do it. -
I have a friend who had to mortgage her home to the tune of $50,000 to get her 17 year old straightened out, he was also using drugs though.