40ish and beyond...
Hey ladies! I'm writing a blog post this week about manners.
What, in your opinions, are manners that kids really need? Not just to make Mom, Dad and Grandma happy in the moment, but throughout life and in order to get ahead.
I'm just getting tired of the "grunt and groan" answers I hear from kids, their inability to make eye-contact, etc., etc. Some parents don't seem to require any more than that from them, however.
What do you think?
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Pelase and thank you's would be nice. Not yelling and swearing for the whole world to hear them. Just having some respect for anyone that they are around.
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my biggest thing is respect, respect us, yourselves, those around you! and being polite, open the door for someone. if you see an elderly person putting groceries in their car, help them and take the cart for them. smile and say hi to people when you walk by. ask someone if they need help or assistance, no matter their age. I'm sure there's more but that's all I got for the moment.
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Well my kids give eye contact but too much - more like a long stare! I like when my oldest son 9y/o, takes his hat off when he walks into a building or someone's home. Both boys shake hands when they meet someone new. They know how to say "yes" not yeah & "thank you." They can be very helpful at times, at school & home. My youngest son (who is autistic) - his teacher said he helps the other kids in class, and he doesn't even like to talk.
I made sure my kids had manners because I dislike some of my friends' children that seem rude. These kids without manners eventually become rude adults; & parents don't seem to get it!
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My kids all have good manners,there teachers and even strangers and the waitresses in restaurants remark on how they act.They always say please and thank you ,they will open a door and hold it open for someone older than they are,they do not interrupt when someone is speaking to them, they do not say HEY! HEY! if they are trying to get someone's attention,I have taught them to say excuse me Mam or Sir,and if the person whose attention they need s speaking they will wait quietly until they are finished.My kids are 6 ,9,and 10 and I have been teaching them these things as well as other things since they could understand,kids will act according to how they are allowed to act and they will do what they are taught and when you teach them when they are babies and keep on teaching them it instills it in them and becomes a common way of behaving.
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Please and thank you, yes ma'am, yes sir. Rolling eyes is rude. Holding doors for people, returning texts, calls, all kinds of stuff. My kid's friends I am friends with. They ONLY call me Maria if I allow it. Some do, some don't. Most call me Mrs. Rob...:) which I do allow some to call me Maria.
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Hearing a child say , "excuse me" AND wait for someone to move, not shoving their[the child] way around a person.
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The biggest in our home is show kindness. we have others but I figure if your default is to be kind it pretty much covers everything else. Please, thank you are good, shaking hands and greeting people are a plus, but not the most important. My kids have gone to different place to meet a wide variety of people, from all walks of life. My dd was in this room coloring and this woman joined her and asked her questions and commented on her coloring. My dd answered her questions and invited her to join her in coloring the next page. My dd let her know she liked her curly hair and though it was pretty. One of the workers there got upset at me for letting my dd talk to that woman because she is a prostitute. Now the woman overheard her, my dd who was 12 at the time, wasn't sure what that was and asked. The woman looked at me and I nodded, the woman told my dd what it was and she told her how she made choices that got her there and why drugs and other bad choices are not good paths to choose. She made my dd promise to staying school and always respect herself and never use drugs. My dd smiled and gave this woman a huge hug. The woman cried as she finished coloring the paper. When my dd saw this, she got up and got the woman tissue and a cup of tea. Later she told me that was the first time she felt like an real person in a long time. Kindness is the number one in my book.
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Children should be taught never to be disrespectful to an adult. So many children will cuss out and talk back to adults. When I was growing up, that behavior was not accepted or tolerated. But now you hear kids telling their parents to shut up.
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I think manners should be taught from the very beginning when a child starts talking and walking. Respect for others and themselves. Please and thank yous go a long way, as well as addressing an adult in the proper way.
I dont and wont stand for that lip smacking or eye rolling at all.
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Please and thank u ( w/o being goated to by mom, once passed a certain age), mr., mrs., ms to friends parents, write thank us for gifts ( no facebook posts ) to be respectful of others ( do unto others) i'm really tired of the groans too and the whatever with the added eyeroll! Thank you for this ?