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tetris1515
I need advice from you working moms!
April 6, 2013 at 5:12 AM

Hi ladies. I'm in a quandary and I just don't know what to do. I am currently 5.5 months pregnant with my first child and I work part-time as a college instructor. Our baby was unplanned but is very much loved and wanted. I just found out that both full-time professors in my topic area are retiring this summer and the college is looking to hire a new full-timer. And I believe they're looking at me to take the position! I'm so excited by the prospect, after all, full-time teaching jobs are rare and hard to get. Plus the pay would be great, especially for someone like me that has been paid near minimum wage my whole working life. However, I'd have to start less than a month after giving birth. How can I decide? What is it like to work full-time and care for a newborn? How do you manage breastfeeding? Is the stress even remotely manageable? Please give me your honest opinions no matter what they are or tell me about your personal experiences.

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  • Mommabearbergh
    April 6, 2013 at 5:33 AM
    You manage by pumping at work during your breaks.the stress can be manageable you have to remember to not spread your self thin
  • Marti123
    April 6, 2013 at 9:10 AM
    I am a full time professor in a graduate nursing program. I started full-time when my children were 1 & 3. I took the job, because it was actually more flexible than my clinical job as a nurse practitioner. I am not sure what hours you are required to be on campus, how much work research is required if you are science based, but with more on-line classes, there are so many more options to work from home for most professors. You can work on grant and research options off-hours, etc... Many campus have excellent daycare.

    In a world of jobs, I think this is one of the more mom friendly ones, IMO. But I am sure every department and college is different, specifically if you are in a science research field.

    I have always worked full-time after the birth of my children, so far two, pregnant with number 3. Personally for me the financial burden of not working would be more stressful. As well as the fact. That my career is important to me, and stopping for 5-10 years to raise kids was and is not something I wanted or want to do. I breastfed both of my children into their toddler years, and pumped at work until they were 13-14months old. I personally once again, think college is a much easier environment to pump.
  • flutter523
    April 6, 2013 at 10:06 AM
    It's definitely manageable. You pump on your breaks and nurse on demand at home. Once you start, you'll find a routine and you'll get used to it. It's never easy leaving your baby but you can definitely manage. It sounds like a great opportunity for you b
  • Kelly0818
    April 6, 2013 at 10:32 AM

     Well it is manageable, but I'm not gonna say it is easy it is a challenge. Like the other ladies were saying you can breastfeed on your breaks. With my first child i was gonna to college full time and working mid-nights at a casino as a Sercurity Officier. Yes, it was hard for a while but as long as you have your family's support you should be ok.

  • deccaf
    by deccaf
    April 6, 2013 at 10:41 AM
    It is manageable. Make sure your husband helps, pump at work, and try to keep stress away. I went back to work at 6 weeks and knowing that dd is in great hands helps a LOT!
  • nomadbrat83
    April 6, 2013 at 10:44 AM
    I can't comment on the breastfeeding aspect, but I returned from maternity leave when my oldest dd was 8 weeks old. I was also taking some graduate courses.
  • mmeredith
    April 6, 2013 at 10:47 AM

    I had my 1st job and full time at that with a 2 month old, I was 18. It was hard as hell. I had no support or help though. Help and support makes a world of difference. If you're finding a daycare or babysitter for the baby make sure you start looking very soon.

  • twinplus2
    April 6, 2013 at 7:05 PM

    If it is really a job you want, you can do it. (I was lucky in that I took 3 months off per FMLA, but my mom returned to work only 2 weeks after delivery with me.) While I encourage you to be open to breastfeeding, also be open to formula feeding if that works better for you. (Among my peer group breast feeding came very easy to some, even some twin moms with full time jobs, but for many it is burdensome, especially those with toddlers and infants at home. It really depends.) Start looking for childcare now. When I had my first I was 6 months pregnant when I lined up my daycare center as premium centers were difficult to get slots in. (It was much easier with my subsequent pregnancies as my daycare provider had lots of notice, and with the twins even adjusted staff hours to match my desired pickup time right before the center closed for the day.) Good luck!

  • Nighttiger
    April 6, 2013 at 9:04 PM

    Every situation is different. I can tell you my experience, but yours might be 100% different. I went back to work with DS1 at 6 weeks. I pumped at work 3-4 times a day for 10-15 minutes each time. I was fortunate to have my own office about a month after I got back, so I could just close the door to my office. DS never did get formula, was breastmilk only until 6 months and ended up nursing for 22 months (I pumped for 14 months). I worked full time an hour from home, so I was gone a minimum of 10 hour days. It sucks and you miss your baby, but you can struggle through the sleep deprivation. DH never got up with DS, which means for the first 3 months back I would be working on 4 hours of sleep every day. Eventually, it ended and I'm now getting 7 hours again most nights. I worked as an engineer, which means I had to be on my game as much as I could be. I did end up making 1 mistake that cost us a few thousand dollars due to a drawing error, but I still hold there was no way I could have caught that mainly due to the data I was working from. Since every job is different, every mother is different and every baby is different, its hard to say how difficult it will be for you. I will say that they are infants for a VERY short time, and the job you take will last a lot longer than the fatigue of a new baby. 

  • levansbx
    April 6, 2013 at 9:34 PM
    This. All of it. :)

    Quoting flutter523:

    It's definitely manageable. You pump on your breaks and nurse on demand at home. Once you start, you'll find a routine and you'll get used to it. It's never easy leaving your baby but you can definitely manage. It sounds like a great opportunity for you b

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