I was planning to because I figured it would be easier having the same last name as the kids. After he remarried my best friend I changed my name back to my maiden name. I did not want to be associated with such trash.
I am debating this right now. We haven't started the divorce process yet but it is not far off.
The only draw to keeping my last name the same is to have the same last name as my son. But he is two and doesn't even know what a last name is so he won't know any different.
I want to go back to my maiden name because I feel like I lost a lot of who I was to make my marriage work. Going back to my maiden feels like I am taking myself, my voice, and my hopes and dreams back.
The day it was final, the judge asked me one last time if I wanted to go back to my maiden name. I said, I kind of did but I wasn't sure if I wanted to complicate matters for my kids plus I admitted to being lazy and not really wanting to deal with all the other stuff, like license and ss name change yet. She laughed and said that there are no "name change" police, that I could legally have it official that day and do everything else when I was ready. She called me by my maiden name for the first time in 30 years :)
I did for awhile... then changed it about 5 yrs later. My kids could care less... in fact they have asked about changing to my name. Ni t to match but because their Dad is not involved.
I think we as adults put more weight on a name than kids do. Not to mention so many families have different names even married