Ok so this may seem like a crazy question but as far as dating goes when you 1st meet someone and decide to go out who should pay? I met a guy about 2 nights ago at work and we exchanged numbers and we've been texting off and on. He's 25, no kids, not married and he is a security supervisor for a company. Anyways, he texted me last night and asked me when we were going to chill so I'm thinking about going to the movies this weekend because I want to see Tyler Perry's new movie "Temptations:Cofessions of a Marriage Counselor"? We haven't made solid plans yet but I was wondering some things?
Thing is I don't date or go out. I forgot how the rules work. Paying for things and just being a gf in general. We are just talking so we'll see where things go but I mean its been 8 yrs and I am not a 15 year old anymore you know? 1st outing should you go Dutch or the guy pay? I've never been comfortable with guys paying for stuff anyways because my mother taught me if you allow a guy to pay for things he'll expect something in return (anyone ever heard that?)
Does this post make any sense? lol I am sleep deprived after working all week and only sleep 2 or 3 hours a day. I should be sleeping right now but I got home this morning and took a 2 hour nap before clocking in and so now I'm not sleepy but 9pm comes quick so I guess I'll just lay down and rest my eyes or something? Thanks ladies.
UPDATE: So we ended up texting last night and I ended up texting him and asking him what his definition of "chilling" was and him if going to the movies was cool. He texted back with lol and of course. So we're on the same page I think.
Do people go to the movies on Sundays? He called me last night on my lunch break and we talked. He doesn't smoke or club and he only drinks socially. He doesn't have a FB and he has 2 jobs. He says he is a security supervisor and then he works for the Central Prison. I wonder why he has 2 jobs if he has no responsibilities? Maybe debt? IDK. I don't know enough about him to know if I want to go out tomorrow night but we'll see I guess.
For the first date, I'd have back up money (of course) but I would expect him to pay. If you're really uncomfortable with it offer to buy snacks if he gets the movie tickets. I always expect the guy to pay for the first several dates and will start offering to pay or splitting bills and stuff as thing move along. I've been dating my current SO for almost 4 years now and we usually just alternate or he'll get it if I'm having a slow time with jobs or if we're celebrating something he did I'll pay. It's kind of a trade-off now.
On first dates I go out for lunch and then a movie or somethin like that. I pay for myself and they pay for themselves. I go d it easier that way. Although most guys I've dated I've had to be the one paying. :/ guess that's what I get for dating lowlifes lol but I'd keep everything mutual. Movies on a Sunday are great! Now go knock em dead! Lol
I always pay for him and myself if it's a date. I hate guys paying for me, it makes me feel obligated. Maybe that's why guys didn't stick for long. Anyways, I say pay for yourself and him, then he can get the popcorn or something. Have fun and don't stress it.