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nina.burnham89
I'm going to rip my hair out!
February 28 at 4:53 PM

I'm contemplating getting; What to Expect The Toddler Years or that 1-2-3 whatever book because of Bratty Bella (my 2 year old). Sometimes I just don't know what to do when she becomes a Bendy Wendy when its time to get dressed ( she just goes limp and there is no hope for holding her, making her do anything or getting anything on her... its so frustrating! Its like fine go outside in 20 degree weather naked), screams like her clothes have knifes all over them stabbing her, acts like she is dying when told no, cant share, all the no's and uhhhh huhhhhh's, and screams... oh the screams are ear piercing! lol! 

Everything in the book is most likely online somewhere and more detailed but I still might get it. Bella is a good girl but when she is having hissy fit its bad! My mom and boyfriend cant believe what they are witnessing when she throw them! I look at her like wtf is wrong with you and laugh and it just makes things worse. If anything doesn't go Bella's way or is told 'no' she screams and cries so hard she is on the brink of vomiting!

When I ask people for advice and then apply it with Bella it doesn't help, I just still have a screaming little crazy person. OR when I read ‘what's happening with your toddler" and then For example, Bella knows how and when to say sorry but the thing is she will say sorry things that don't need a sorry like bumping into my leg when we are trying to both walk through a door way and she misjudges how much room there is or stepping on my foot BUT she DOESN'T say sorry for hitting/pushing/throwing or making kids cry! And then what's the result, if you don't say sorry you have to go to time out... and 10 ear piercing minuets later she says sorry. 

*sigh* I'm going to end up in an insane asylum by the time she's 3!

Oh and she's a red headed scorpio!! (see adorb pic below!)

This is essentially why I joined cafemom, so I could get help and advice from fellow mommy's

Thoughts? 

 

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  • nina.burnham89
    March 9 at 3:56 PM


    A lot of people have told me to check that show out... so I plan on it!

     

    Thanks! 



    Quoting HLHSmommy:

    Not sure if you have the time, but check out some of the "Super Nanny" episodes you might gain some tips from there. I haven't quite gotten to the point of many issues, since my son is not even 18 months and has some developmental delays. I am sure I will be there soon enough looking for tips on here as well. 



  • LifeCafe42
    March 10 at 3:31 AM
    I'm so glad it's tough but staying consistent has been the best thing I've done

    Quoting nina.burnham89:




    I really realllly really like the sand timer for time out so there is a visual, not just ok time out of over are you ready to say sorry. I think im going to get one of those!


     


    I will NEVER put bella in the shower.


     


    WOW you have a lot of good ideas that I love thanks so much! I guess its all about being creative. 







    Quoting LifeCafe42:

    My son doesn't so time outs well but he sits on my lap and I count backwards from 60-120 he calms down a lot also watching a sand timer helps him. Once he's calm we talk about it. Putting in the shower like the other mother suggested is abuse please do not follow that advice.
    My son is 2 and testing all of his limits. Staying consistent has helped as well as we have a mr. Potato head we build every day he earns a piece when it's done he gets a reward. It has helped a ton.




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