I went out on a date during the week for the first time. My kids are finally old enough to be left alone. We were having a really great time but I had to cut it short because I don't like leaving the kids alone for more than a couple of hours. The kids were already in bed and I have a finished basement so I invited him in for a drink.
Now I feel like a terrible mother. Is it bad that I had a man in the house while the kids were upstairs sleeping? All we did was sit on the couch and watch a movie then he left.
Not sure........I guess you wanted to make sure your kids were okay, but bringing a strange man into your home......is this your first date? I would definately shy away from bringing him back until you had more dates and you guys are a little bit more serious. I'm not sure what your kids would think if they saw a strange man in the house. I wouldn't do that to my DD had she been in my home.
Being a terrible mom shouldn't be the issue (the fact you question it says your a good mom), but rather think about if your willing to put yourself in that scenario again. Having too many guys know where you live may make you feel uneasy. Be selective who is comfortable and trustworthy enough to sit on that couch to watch a movie with you. I'm just now back in the dating world again too- only time a guy picked me up my girl was with my ex so didn't really have to consider her being in the home when it occurred. Just always make sure that you put yourself and kids in a safe situation in order to feel good about dating & the example you set. (Not saying this instance was setting bad example, but rather be prepared as possible for situations that occur). Happy dating(:
I'm uneasy, I would never let a date know where I live, especially if my children were home. Be careful who you bring around your children, you never know what type of person you might be dealing with.
For me I keep any male interests away from my home. I feel that this is my kids place to feel safe and secure. If they woke up and saw this strange guy in the home it may make them feel uneasy or unsafe. I dont feel comfortable with people Im dating knowing where I live. Its not just me anymore, its my duty and honor to protect my kids and make them feel like they are always first.