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s-jane89
Family dont give me a break !!!
January 26, 2013 at 7:02 AM
I'm 24 in 2 and a half weeks and I have a 4 year old son. I've hardly ever gone out since I've had my little man.. Every woman needs a break sometimes! My son is mixed race And my sisters baby is white.. Every time my sister wants to go out, everyone immediaty jumps to her aid and watches him for her. She gets to disappear for days to out and drink ,smoke etc.. I don't drink nor do I smoke.. But when I ask my family wether they can watch Jayden while me and my partner get to grab lunch or a meal they all run for the hills! They make excuses and say their busy when they all just sit on their asses and do nothing!!. I think it's definitely a racial thing going on. Also when I wanna take him over there they All smoke in his face which I don't agree with at all. But they don't smoke infront of my sisters baby. And they never come to see him.. He hasn't seen his nan for nearly 2 months.. She doesn't even call or visit . None of them do :( it breaks my heart !!

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  • charmgirl
    January 26, 2013 at 7:12 AM
    I'm sorry your family is being so unsupportive. I would just let them be. They sound like they don't even deserve to be a part of your lives. If they want to, they'll make the effort. And I would demand that they don't smoke around him.
  • Cenedra64
    January 26, 2013 at 7:14 AM
    I think you might be right..theyre being racist. Im sorry theyre treating you like that. When my kids were little i never had a babysitter. I was married at the time and husband never gave me a break. In fact he got worse about finding reasons to leave me strapped with kids. Id take them everywhere with me.
  • LifeCafe42
    January 26, 2013 at 9:55 AM
    I'm sorry but it doesn't sound like an environment I'd want my child in maybe save a few dollars a week for a babysitter
  • aLBa87
    by aLBa87
    January 26, 2013 at 10:33 AM
    Thats right! I have ppl in my family that i dont talk to at all and as much as i want my daught to have grandparents, being the ppl they choose to be, they dont deserve being in my daughters life! I know its hard and i know that sometimes you do want to just have lunch without having to tell a lil person next to you to sit still but right now you just have to do it. Or maybe if you have friends that you trust to watch him maybe you can do that. In any case keep your head up. Oh and my daughters mixed too and i know how it feels to feel shes being discriminated against for it.


    Quoting charmgirl:

    I'm sorry your family is being so unsupportive. I would just let them be. They sound like they don't even deserve to be a part of your lives. If they want to, they'll make the effort. And I would demand that they don't smoke around him.

  • Robsessed98
    January 26, 2013 at 11:09 AM
    Are they racist toward others? Will SO or his family keep him so you can take a break?
  • s-jane89
    January 27, 2013 at 7:09 AM
    Thanks for the replies .. My son has severe ADHD so it's very hard to take him with me .. He has calmed down a lot since last year and I'm extremely proud of him.. I have demanded that they stop smoking infront of him but they refuse so I have stopped my son from going over there ..! But they don't bother coming to see us. They are very disturbed people and I'm looking to move away very soon for a fresh start. I have a lot of faith and have bought my son up on a positive vibe but my family are heavy devil worshippers and swear and talk about whips and chains and getting raped by him and some really dirty stuff. It's sickening infront of my son which is why I stopped taking him over there!!. My partner is also a black man and my big sister has once called him a n****r which made me really lay into her now I refuse to let her in my house or near my little family.. I love my partner very much I've known him since I was 16 and I would never let him to through all that crap so I'm making a big decision to not bother with some of them . Not all of them are racist or so rude to me bout my beliefs so I'd like to stay in contact but they will come to my house. I'm never going to my mums again . !
  • lf1975
    by lf1975
    January 27, 2013 at 9:42 AM
    I get how you feel. My parents live a half an hour away and are retired. They enjoy my kids when they see them but if they watch them for me it's like they are going so out of their way impeding on their time. I have had the flu since last Sunday and they finally offer to watch them today for a half a day. My mom says to me I'm sorry your not feeling well. I know it must be hard. Well if you know that than why the fuck do you wait all week to offer to help for a half a day. I hope to god I'm more helpful to my grandkids than they are.
  • quickbooksworm
    January 27, 2013 at 9:47 AM
    1) the ADHD might be more of a factor than the race issue.
    2) you can't control what people do in their home
    3) if they are such horrible people, why would you want them as babysitters?


    Quoting s-jane89:

    Thanks for the replies .. My son has severe ADHD so it's very hard to take him with me .. He has calmed down a lot since last year and I'm extremely proud of him.. I have demanded that they stop smoking infront of him but they refuse so I have stopped my son from going over there ..! But they don't bother coming to see us. They are very disturbed people and I'm looking to move away very soon for a fresh start. I have a lot of faith and have bought my son up on a positive vibe but my family are heavy devil worshippers and swear and talk about whips and chains and getting raped by him and some really dirty stuff. It's sickening infront of my son which is why I stopped taking him over there!!. My partner is also a black man and my big sister has once called him a n****r which made me really lay into her now I refuse to let her in my house or near my little family.. I love my partner very much I've known him since I was 16 and I would never let him to through all that crap so I'm making a big decision to not bother with some of them . Not all of them are racist or so rude to me bout my beliefs so I'd like to stay in contact but they will come to my house. I'm never going to my mums again . !

  • s-jane89
    January 27, 2013 at 10:42 AM
    Aww. I get how you feel too . My mum and her kids all live just 5 minutes away from Mine so I don't get why the people that are okay in my family won't even come down to see me or my son!


    Quoting lf1975:

    I get how you feel. My parents live a half an hour away and are retired. They enjoy my kids when they see them but if they watch them for me it's like they are going so out of their way impeding on their time. I have had the flu since last Sunday and they finally offer to watch them today for a half a day. My mom says to me I'm sorry your not feeling well. I know it must be hard. Well if you know that than why the fuck do you wait all week to offer to help for a half a day. I hope to god I'm more helpful to my grandkids than they are.

  • s-jane89
    January 27, 2013 at 10:44 AM
    They've been like this since way before his ADHD was even diagnosed.
    I know some of them are racist because I've heard it . They've even said it to my son.
    And most of all. I did mention that not all of them are like that on the end of my second reply .


    Quoting quickbooksworm:

    1) the ADHD might be more of a factor than the race issue.

    2) you can't control what people do in their home

    3) if they are such horrible people, why would you want them as babysitters?




    Quoting s-jane89:

    Thanks for the replies .. My son has severe ADHD so it's very hard to take him with me .. He has calmed down a lot since last year and I'm extremely proud of him.. I have demanded that they stop smoking infront of him but they refuse so I have stopped my son from going over there ..! But they don't bother coming to see us. They are very disturbed people and I'm looking to move away very soon for a fresh start. I have a lot of faith and have bought my son up on a positive vibe but my family are heavy devil worshippers and swear and talk about whips and chains and getting raped by him and some really dirty stuff. It's sickening infront of my son which is why I stopped taking him over there!!. My partner is also a black man and my big sister has once called him a n****r which made me really lay into her now I refuse to let her in my house or near my little family.. I love my partner very much I've known him since I was 16 and I would never let him to through all that crap so I'm making a big decision to not bother with some of them . Not all of them are racist or so rude to me bout my beliefs so I'd like to stay in contact but they will come to my house. I'm never going to my mums again . !


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