My son has been at his fathers house for the past couple days and tomorrow morning he is bringing him home. He told me that he was going to stay and hang out for the night, so that we could do things as a family. I want him to, so badly. I miss him a lot and I love him.. but our relationship is so messy right now, I dont know if this is a good choice or not.. Any advice?
I don't know the situation fully, but it sounds like he has decided he still wants to be with you. So, you have to first decide if you truly still want to be with him. You can love him forever, but do you want be that kind of family? From what you are saying, I would say take it slow. Decide how you feel FIRST. Whatever mess the two of you have going on will need to be discussed. You don't want to allow your child to get the impression that everything is okie doke, and get his hopes up about your family. It's either or but never both. Don't confuse your child.
I agree with all the ladies, letting him sleep over can just complicate things. It won't help you heal and he'll probably take advantage of this and just continue to use you for sex. Let him hang out but no sleeping over. Did his son sleep over at his place? Also this could confuse your son, he might think mom and dad are getting back together and if that doesn't happen it'll hurt him more.