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mnivis01
Sons father spending the night. good or bad?
January 23, 2013 at 9:05 PM

 My son has been at his fathers house for the past couple days and tomorrow morning he is bringing him home. He told me that he was going to stay and hang out for the night, so that we could do things as a family. I want him to, so badly. I miss him a lot and I love him.. but our relationship is so messy right now, I dont know if this is a good choice or not.. Any advice?

Replies

  • tigerlilly333
    January 23, 2013 at 9:42 PM

    Umm... Bad, really bad, if you are not staying together. IMHO

  • Carmalita28
    January 23, 2013 at 9:50 PM

    I don't know the situation fully, but it sounds like he has decided he still wants to be with you. So, you have to first decide if you truly still want to be with him. You can love him forever, but do you want be that kind of family? From what you are saying, I would say take it slow. Decide how you feel FIRST. Whatever mess the two of you have going on will need to be discussed. You don't want to allow your child to get the impression that everything is okie doke, and get his hopes up about your family. It's either or but never both. Don't confuse your child.

  • moosesmom
    January 23, 2013 at 9:51 PM
    I say no. Let him stay for an hour or two. You guys have fun and then walk him out.
  • KRIZZ25
    by KRIZZ25
    January 23, 2013 at 9:53 PM
    no sex..he sleep on the floor or sofa and u lock ur bed room door.. if he start to try to "get wth u"make him leave.
  • KRIZZ25
    by KRIZZ25
    January 23, 2013 at 9:53 PM
    he sounds like he just wont booty..
  • jkleinman
    January 23, 2013 at 10:04 PM
    If you let him stay, I agree with this.

    Quoting KRIZZ25:

    no sex..he sleep on the floor or sofa and u lock ur bed room door.. if he start to try to "get wth u"make him leave.
  • massconfusion14
    January 23, 2013 at 10:16 PM

    BAD! My ex let my daughter and I sleep over so he could wake up with her..... well, he didn't wake up for her but he wanted sex and I was so weak I gave in. Will never happen again!

  • Ridingsolo
    January 24, 2013 at 6:03 AM

     Agreed.  That's the only reason he wants to stay overnite.

    Even if you do think you'd like to get back together with him, letting him stay overnite is not the way to go about it.  Bad idea; tell him no.


    Quoting massconfusion14:

    BAD! My ex let my daughter and I sleep over so he could wake up with her..... well, he didn't wake up for her but he wanted sex and I was so weak I gave in. Will never happen again!


     

  • easinpc
    by easinpc
    January 24, 2013 at 11:35 AM

     I agree with these two moms.


    Quoting jkleinman:

    If you let him stay, I agree with this.

    Quoting KRIZZ25:

    no sex..he sleep on the floor or sofa and u lock ur bed room door.. if he start to try to "get wth u"make him leave.


     

  • mamalena137
    January 24, 2013 at 12:58 PM

    I agree with all the ladies, letting him sleep over can just complicate things. It won't help you heal and he'll probably take advantage of this and just continue to use you for sex. Let him hang out but no sleeping over. Did his son sleep over at his place? Also this could confuse your son, he might think mom and dad are getting back together and if that doesn't happen it'll hurt him more.

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