So the guy I'm kinda dating has told me that my son is "spoiled rotten" a few times. He has a little girl who is about a year younger than my son. I almost feel like he compares our kids and that's how he's coming to that conclusion. But the truth of the matter is that their situations are NOTHING alike. In fact, her situation is tons better in my opinion. I'll give a couple examples of when he's said it and my argument against it.
The most important thing about most relationships, is knowing when to end them! Most relationships are dead ends, only a few of them are really going to be great.
I do try to say very little to him when I put him back. I definitely think he does it for attention. He'll get up and say things like "my finger hurts", "I hurt my toes", or "I'm crying" (all with a straight face). He just doesn't want to go to bed. It's like he thinks he'll miss something. But yea, I'm glad it's over. I almost feel relieved.
I think that you guys are better off separate.
Your values and ideas are too different. You wouldn't be able to get along.
My guess would be that if the two of you were together, he'd be trying to dictate everything you do, not just how you care for your son.
Some kids are harder to get to bed than others. I don't see anything wrong with how you're putting your little guy to bed. Put 'em back in bed, leave the room, if possible, try to make that as 'neutral' as possible, so he isn't getting a lot of attention for getting out of bed. Otherwise he might be doing it for the attention.
It's generally a small matter of opinion if one says someone else is spoiling their kids. Most of these actions are within a normal range of what can produce a normal kid. Small differences in parenting aren't really going to create serial killers or mass shooters. I've seen kids raised very very different ways and they don't all go bad.
January 21 at 10:25 AMOk, off subject. What does "DD" and "DS" stand for? I saw these abbreviations again in this thread and I can't figure it out ;/
I don't think your wrong at all. He actually sounds a lot like a guy I was seeing. He always complains about how my son has too many toys and granted he does have a lot soo what. I didn't think there was a specific amount of toys it was acceptable or unacceptable for a child to have. He also loves to tell me how I should raise my son I should make him to this and I should make him do that etc.... Don't listen to the nonsense. Tell him how you choose to raise your son is none of his business and if he cannot keep comments to himself kick him to the curb. It's not worth having a guy around that you have to act like a buffer between him and your kids.
As a single mother i would be extremely offended if someone said anything close to that about my son. im glad you are movong on because it will just get worse. your child deserves better and so do you...
Your child only will be able to have one childhood. so if he/she has a few more toys, then so be it.