Single Moms
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i got pregnant at 19 had my child at 20. i been struggling with no help from my daughters father and its hard as hell.. your not a failure. your struggling but what parent doesnt struggle whether with the other person involved or not keep your head up. if you need someone to talk to please message me. keep your head held high smile for you are raising your kids and thats a MOM.............
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Thank you means a lot...I was younger then 19 I am 19 now.thanks again.
Quoting simplyamazing3:
i got pregnant at 19 had my child at 20. i been struggling with no help from my daughters father and its hard as hell.. your not a failure. your struggling but what parent doesnt struggle whether with the other person involved or not keep your head up. if you need someone to talk to please message me. keep your head held high smile for you are raising your kids and thats a MOM.............
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Don't listen to what other people say. You are a single mother and you do the best you can. Thats all you can do.
It takes some huge ovaries to take on the responsiblity of being a single mother. It proves that you are strong, you are determined and if you can do this, you can really do anything.
Plus, I don't see anyone bashing the men who leave their kids!!! Why is it that the women are the only ones responsible for the children when it takes two?
Anyway, the best thing you can do for both of you is to get educated, get a good job and live your life.
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Do you hear what you're saying? Re-read your entire post. People have been doubling but for the last 5 years you've managed to do alright by your daughter. If anything you're a great mom. You're doing what needs to be done to make sure she has food, clothing, and love!! That's more than other moms can say. People WILL ALWAYS have something to say...keep doing you :-) -
To expand on that, I think the biggest problem that we face as single mothers is self doubt.
In most (not all, but most) situations, the only thing holding us back is us telling ourselves that we cant do something.
I finished college while working full time, I worked my a** off and got it done. I have a decent job (always looking for a better one). Right now my biggest obstacle is buying a house. I didnt realize it but I had accepted that as a single mom, I was never going to own my own house. I have like zero credit and I barely make enough money to save up 10% for any decent house. But you know what? A few months ago, I started picking up odd jobs a few times a week and the money I've saved along with my tax return will put me over halfway there.
Its all about the way that you think. Don't think you CANT do somthing...think I know its going to be hard but HOW can I do it. Don't accept failure as a possiblity and everything gets so much easier!
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I had both of my girls at 19. While I was briefly married to the youngest's dad, I have been a single mom for 90% of their lives. (they were like 2 when we separated for good). I rarely ever get help. I have a bf now, but we are not married. He helps me out tremendously though now.
Since having kids I have worked up to 3 jobs. I now have a BS, an MBA and am beginning work on a doctorate's in Organizational Behavior. My girls are four years from graduating high school (both of them - they are 10 months a part and 1 year a part in school). I work full time and have a good job with the state.
You can do it. Don't listen to the naysayers. Cut all negativity from your life. If they are not for you, they are against you. Take hold of the reins and hold on tight. YOU CAN DO IT.
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Yes, I understand what it is like to be criticized. you just have to know to use what others say and motivation to prove them wrong. You are human so you will always care about what people say. Just learn to change it to something positive as hard as that is.
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Whether it is or isn't true, it doesn't matter. You are going to do the best you can because thats what we do. It's not anyone elses business. :) the fact that you even posted this shows how much you care. Just remember, you don't have to prove anything to anybody. Easier said than done, I know. -
Thank you everyone! I needed it! I always get comments and it's do hard on me to not listen.
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Yeah but when she grows up will she still understand?
Quoting moosesmom:
Do you hear what you're saying? Re-read your entire post. People have been doubling but for the last 5 years you've managed to do alright by your daughter. If anything you're a great mom. You're doing what needs to be done to make sure she has food, clothing, and love!! That's more than other moms can say. People WILL ALWAYS have something to say...keep doing you :-)