So me and my son's father split up a year ago. We finalized the custody.
I have a wonderful 3 year old boy named Logan, and a boyfriend named Nick who is so wonderful with him. We will be together for a year in September.
Logan has always been such a sweet boy. Nice and caring. When I tell him not to do something, he obeys, and runs off to play with something else. He has seriously been the BEST behaved 3 year old ever!
However, he is having a hard time adjusting. Whenever my ex brings him to me, I can tell he does not get disciplined there. He comes back and is screaming. Is sucking his fingers (has NEVER done that before) and EVERY time i tell him not to do something he screams "no. no. no."
I hate it. I love my son so much. But this isn't him. I hate to say it but he is acting like a brat. And he is not. He knows better than to act like this. And I just don't know how to handle this at all! I'm so frustrated. This isnt' my sweet baby boy.
And my ex and I do NOT get along at all. Any advice on the best way to discipline him and handle these mood swings???
I have a niece who acts the same when I get her back from my sister. It's frustrating but all you can really do is remind him of the rules and keep to what u say goes/doesn't go in your home. It sometimes takes us 2-3 days to get my niece back on track but it happens. My sister doesn't see it, of course not..she's too busy with her own things to notice her daughter has issues. U might also look into counceling...it's rare for a child so young to be seen sometimes but you can find someone and they do play type counceling according to the childs age.
As for daycare, despite what is going on at home with the changes...u would be suprised at how quickly a child can adapt to going to daycare when they are around other kids thier age and are making friends. We worried about daycare w/ both my daughter and niece both and they did wonderful!
And until your rear walks in our shoes on having to do it, DON'T JUDGE! one of these days you will probably be here complaining to us on the same topic.wanting help. Maybe someone will be rude and sarcastic to you!
What I find unbelievable is that people do not realize the suffering that drives their children to misbehave. Do people really not get that being shuttled around, back and forth, different people, different food, different routines, different rules, different homes is extremely upsetting to children. Hense my <sarcasm>.
What words of encouragement and support! Have you ever had to deal with this style of situation? If not, try to put yourself in our shoes! The age is not the factor per se here, it is the lack of parental obligation to correct the child. Not all people get along, thus seperating. Children do suffer but that does not mean the child is horrible. Are yours brats or angels?
Gee- being only 3 and being shuttled every couple of days between homes and people? I think he is reacting to all the stress he is under and all of the changes all of you are putting him through.