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I'm having that exact same problem. My divorce isn't final yet, but a week after I left he had his girlfriend move in and start taking care of my son while he is at work (24 hour shifts b/c he is a firefighter) tbe jusge said he is allowed to have any sitter he chooses and my lawyer said I have to be able to prove they are living together in court and that's almost impossible. Even after the divorce is finalized, I still jave to prove she is there when she is not supposed to be. I don't care one bit that he is seeing someone, I don't want it to confuse my son more and fir him to think its okay to change women like they do underwear. Sorry had to vent. Very frustrated by my own situation!
My husband and I have been seperated for almost 2 years. When we were together I was the primary parent of our two children. Now that we are sperated he has had to step up and actually be a parent and while i am so happy that they now have him in that role, I am finding it so hard to co-parent. I want to discuss ideas and issues that arrise and try to find common ground between us so that it is more fluid and consistant for the kids. He says i choose to leave and therefore abandoned all rights to not only know what they do, but also to have an opionion on what he does with the kids on his time. The latest issue being his dating life. Since our split he has dated a number of women, which i have no problem with. The problem I have is him choosing to involve every one of them with the children. Within weeks of them meeting, they are sleeping over, watching, transporting the kids. The most current of two months has now been added to the kids pick up list at their schools.This blows my mind! They are so impressionable and have so much in their life that they are trying to make sense of. I have never at any point been hostile or argumentive. I just wantede clarification on his ideals and values as a parent. He said I was out of line. Am I? I am really struggling with this. I think my feelings are valid and that i am not being irrational. its not about him and his dating life, its about the effect it may have on the kids. I know that i can not change him and that I am an influence as well. I have the oppurtunity to show them loving and healthy relationships both romantic and otherwise. I want to move past this, maybe the venting will help, but am also interested in hearing other parents opinions on this. Sorry for the lengthiness of this post and appreciate any input.
Welcome! I'm glad for you that things will be finalized soon. I know it's hard but the relief of having that part over with is so worth it. (((hug)))
Quoting kam744: I am a single mom of a five year old boy. I've been separated for almost a year (nasty custody battle) looking to have it finalized in a couple of weeks. Keeping my head up and looking forward to a better life for me and my son.