So recently a friend yes a guy friend came back into my life. We havent spoke since he was a senior then moved to Alaska. Well facebook helped us reconnect. He is married happily as am I. Yet, I keep having these reoccurring sex dreams about him. I dont talk to him on a daily basis. Ive talked to him twice since we connected on fb. This was 2 mths ago. I do not go to his page and drool or anything like that. So why am I having these dreams? Driving me bonkers! I have them about 2 to 3 times a week. Him amd I have known eachother since we were 5. I searched it on the internet but nothing really stood out.
It's probably just old feelings coming back up I once ad a dream about a guy old bf from middle school, I saw at JCP and said hi to for maybe 2 min. It's normal people mostly dream about the last thing they did or saw 40min before sleeping
I don't really have sex dreams that often but I do often have "love" dreams with all sorts of people starring in them. I think sometimes it's unresolved issues, and sometimes it's because you're not getting affection in real life so your brain creates it.
The dreams that I've had about this topic have been about guy friends that I have had a very strong emotional attachment to and had crushes on. Maybe that's not what you wanted to hear, but it's true for my situation. But a crush doesn't mean that you want to be with that person.
For example, the last guy I had a dream about that wasn't my husband was a guy that I was best friends with when I worked abroad (and before I even met my husband). But I know that it just wouldn't work with that guy. Sure we were best friends, but it would have been difficult for us to be more than that. That is why I never acted on my crush for him, I just knew it wasn't right. But a dream is a dream and in the end you know how you feel for your husband and for this friend of yours. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about.
it may help just chatting with him to see what's going on and putting him back in that friend zone in your mind. Just a suggestion.
It is your subconscious being intrigued and excited by the idea of something new. Guide your dream to make the two of you not attracted to each other after all. For example, in your dream look at the other guy and then look at your husband and feel the love and joy that you feel toward your husband. You can guide your dreams- tell yourself before you fall asleep that you'll guide the dream. Since you have talked about the dreams now, you may find that you no longer have them. Good luck!