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Should a man be forced to pay child support if...?
by jomami
April 14 at 5:16 PM

A couple gets together and he says he doesn't ever want kids and she agrees BUT secretly wishes to have them in the future.

She goes on the pill and they use condoms as a backup measure, just in case, because he's adamantly against having children but isn't ready to be sterilized just yet.

A year or so later, she decides she wants a baby and not only stops taking the pill without telling him but also sabotages the condoms.

When she gets pregnant, he reminds her he doesn't want kids, never did, and urges her to abort. She refuses, but when the baby's born she takes him to court for child support.

Should he have to pay child support even though he was forced into fatherhood by her deception?

Replies

  • jslpruitt
    April 14 at 5:35 PM

     you can't prove that it was actually sabotaged. and birth control and condoms are not 100% eff anyways.

     

  • ABCMomma0211
    April 14 at 5:48 PM

    yup. 

    if he doesn't want children, he should've gotten snipped.

  • jconney80
    April 14 at 8:14 PM

    Yup he is responsible for what comes out of his body. If he was 100% against having kids he should have gotten snipped.


  • NVL0707
    by NVL0707
    April 14 at 8:15 PM
    Yes.
  • MamaJess9
    April 14 at 8:16 PM
    I agree with all three of the first three replies.
  • jomami
    by jomami
    April 14 at 8:21 PM

    If she stopped taking the pill without telling him and messed with the condoms so they wouldn't work, it doesn't seem fair that he should have to pay. 

    It seems like she totally scammed him and tricked him into having a kid!

  • diesel_darling
    April 14 at 8:23 PM
    No matter how you roll the dice.. it's still his kid. Yes, he should pay.
  • jomami
    by jomami
    April 14 at 8:23 PM

     

    Quoting jslpruitt:

     you can't prove that it was actually sabotaged. and birth control and condoms are not 100% eff anyways.

     

     If she kept taking the pills and they didn't work, that would be one thing.  If she stopped taking them but didn't let him know and kept having sex with him, that's totally different. 

    Doesn't seem right that he'd have to pay when he was lied to and tricked into sex with someone who wasn't using any birth control!

  • happymia
    April 14 at 8:26 PM
    If he was that against having kids, he should've gotten a vasectomy, but even then accidents happen. My good friend is now 7 months pregnant from a failed vasectomy.
  • ShadowLark
    April 14 at 8:39 PM


    Quoting jomami:


    Quoting jslpruitt:

     you can't prove that it was actually sabotaged. and birth control and condoms are not 100% eff anyways.

     

     If she kept taking the pills and they didn't work, that would be one thing.  If she stopped taking them but didn't let him know and kept having sex with him, that's totally different. 

    Doesn't seem right that he'd have to pay when he was lied to and tricked into sex with someone who wasn't using any birth control!

    He wasn't tricked into sex.  If he wanted to never have kids, he should have controlled HIS fertility better.  Her body is her decision, and condoms are known to break.

    Plus, he's been with her for a year.  How does he NOT know her well enough to see how utterly baby crazy she is?  He should have left her LONG before she "tricked him" into getting her pg.

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