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I'm being discriminated against because I'm pregnant
October 30, 2013 at 9:31 AM
And it sucks... "I would promote you right now if you weren't pregnant" that's what I heard yesterday... Everyone is telling me to not make a stink about it because I will probably just lose my job. That's not fair to any woman. Sometimes I wonder about people. Just needed to vent...

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  • MidwestMama55
    October 30, 2013 at 9:36 AM

    I am a woman, and see no problem with it. It's realistic. I'm all for women having the same pay as men, etc. etc.,  provided they do the same job, put in the same hours, are just as focused, etc. New moms do not do the same, nor should they receive "special consideration" because they are pregnant, have a newborn, whatever.

  • mama-grace2
    October 30, 2013 at 9:38 AM
    I don't want special treatment. I would be taking the same time off with or without the promotion... I don't see what the concern is??


    Quoting MidwestMama55:

    I am a woman, and see no problem with it. It's realistic. I'm all for women having the same pay as men, etc. etc.,  provided they do the same job, put in the same hours, are just as focused, etc. New moms do not do the same, nor should they receive "special consideration" because they are pregnant, have a newborn, whatever.


  • mama-grace2
    October 30, 2013 at 9:39 AM
    And how would I not be doing the same job??
  • MidwestMama55
    October 30, 2013 at 9:43 AM

     Maybe they can't afford for the position to take time off like that? Men don't need to do that, so it's an advantage.


    Quoting mama-grace2:

    I don't want special treatment. I would be taking the same time off with or without the promotion... I don't see what the concern is??


    Quoting MidwestMama55:

    I am a woman, and see no problem with it. It's realistic. I'm all for women having the same pay as men, etc. etc.,  provided they do the same job, put in the same hours, are just as focused, etc. New moms do not do the same, nor should they receive "special consideration" because they are pregnant, have a newborn, whatever.



     

  • KatLee42513
    October 30, 2013 at 9:45 AM
    I wrote a post about this the other day. I left my job of 12 years b3cause of how unfriendly they were towards woman with families. I'm officicalky a SAHM now because I cannot find a family friendly company.
  • MidwestMama55
    October 30, 2013 at 9:46 AM

     I'm a mom. I've also been a boss. So i've seen both sides. A new mom rarely can devote 100% of her brainpower to her job. She is less efficient because she's checking on the baby, missing work because baby is sick, leaving early, etc. I've done it, and i've seen it. Not trying to be mean, i'm just being honest. Men or women without children (or grown children) can just be far more consistent and reliable. Your first priority will be to your child (as it should be!), not your job. Your boss knows that.

     

    Quoting mama-grace2:

    And how would I not be doing the same job??

     

     

  • KatLee42513
    October 30, 2013 at 9:53 AM
    As someone who goes to all these job interviews & gets asked about children, I'm curious, does it ever dawn on you or any other employer that a guy may be a single parent. Not saying I disagree with you nut find it highly sexist that us woman are the ones who get the assumptions


    Quoting MidwestMama55:

     I'm a mom. I've also been a boss. So i've seen both sides. A new mom rarely can devote 100% of her brainpower to her job. She is less efficient because she's checking on the baby, missing work because baby is sick, leaving early, etc. I've done it, and i've seen it. Not trying to be mean, i'm just being honest. Men or women without children (or grown children) can just be far more consistent and reliable. Your first priority will be to your child (as it should be!), not your job. Your boss knows that.


     


    Quoting mama-grace2:

    And how would I not be doing the same job??

     


     


  • MidwestMama55
    October 30, 2013 at 10:00 AM

     You bring up a very valid point. Thank you. There are men who are single parents. Here are my thoughts on that:

    1. There are very few men raising children on their own compared to other situations. The vast, vast majority are women. So employers probably do not think of that as much, no. Doesn't mean any disrespect to men who do.

    2. Men are able to compartmentalize much better than women. At work, they focus on work. Even with kids at home. Women tend to focus on many things at once. Multitasking is a myth. It's really doing many things, all ineffectively.

    There are obviously exceptions to these rules. There are new moms who are hyperfocused at work. There are men raising children on their own who may need more flexibility. But not as a rule. I'm not anti-woman, nor anti-child. I've been a professional, been a SAHM.


    Quoting KatLee42513:

    As someone who goes to all these job interviews & gets asked about children, I'm curious, does it ever dawn on you or any other employer that a guy may be a single parent. Not saying I disagree with you nut find it highly sexist that us woman are the ones who get the assumptions


    Quoting MidwestMama55:

     I'm a mom. I've also been a boss. So i've seen both sides. A new mom rarely can devote 100% of her brainpower to her job. She is less efficient because she's checking on the baby, missing work because baby is sick, leaving early, etc. I've done it, and i've seen it. Not trying to be mean, i'm just being honest. Men or women without children (or grown children) can just be far more consistent and reliable. Your first priority will be to your child (as it should be!), not your job. Your boss knows that.


     


    Quoting mama-grace2:

    And how would I not be doing the same job??

     


     



     

  • Bambooflute
    October 30, 2013 at 10:03 AM

    World isn't fair,that's the truth.

  • mama-grace2
    October 30, 2013 at 10:04 AM
    But isn't it also illegal for him to say that?

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