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Do you think it was rape? College Student Told She Wasn’t Raped Because He Didn’t 'Finish'
July 24, 2013 at 3:20 PM

College Student Told She Wasn’t Raped Because He Didn’t 'Finish'

by Adriana Velez

facepalmCan someone please help out the University of Southern California police? They seem a bit confused about how this how rape/sexual assault business works. In fact, it's gotten so bad that there's a federal investigation of the campus police and school officials into their alleged failure to prosecute rape. 13 people have filed complaints, including one woman who says she was told she wasn't raped because her assailant didn't orgasm.

"Because he stopped, it was not rape," the victim was told when she reported the rape, according to a complaint she filed. "Even though his penis penetrated your vagina, because he stopped, it was not a crime." 

Okay ladies? It's not rape if he stops. So someone can force himself on you, but if at some point he says, "Oh, my mistake! Excuse me while I remove myself here" and he hasn't ejaculated yet, it's not really rape. It's something we call "schmape." Schmape is more common than you think. I wonder what else the USC campus police classify as schmape, and not, you know, rape rape.

I'm kidding about the schmape. It's just... Where do they get these guys? Shouldn't you have to know what rape is in order to get hired with campus police? Would an IQ test be out of order?

Another woman complained that her ex-boyfriend raped her. She even had a recording of him bragging about it. But she says the campus police gave her the old "not my job" line, telling her their "goal was to offer an 'educative' process, not to 'punish' the assailant." First of all, ye gods, they don't even know what their job is (enforce the law???). Secondly, are these people really in a position to educate anyone about anything, let alone about sexual assault?

Then there was the student who reported a sexual assault at a frat house party. According to her complaint, campus police told her and a friend that women should not "go out, get drunk, and expect not to get raped." Well now we know; campus police are there to enforce the law, unless of course you go and get drunk and then you're on your own. Only men can get drunk. If you have a vagina, stay home and stay sober. Alcohol is just for the guys.

So the feds do an investigation and come to the shocking conclusion that the USC campus police are a bunch of stone-age knuckleheads. Now what? There are similar investigations happening at college campuses all over the country. Francesca Bessey, who is part of a group lawsuit, says she hopes it changes how college administrators and campus police respond to complaints about sexual assault. "For me, the technical outcome of the investigation is much less important than the consciousness I want it to inspire among decision makers at colleges and universities nationwide."

In other words, she wants to put these guys on notice. They're doing it wrong, and they need to get educated.

Are you surprised at the USC police's responses to these complaints about sexual assault?



  • angevil53
    July 24, 2013 at 3:21 PM
    Omg. Id have their jobs...
  • mamacough
    July 24, 2013 at 3:34 PM

     Pretty hard to believe that in this day and age that the campus police can be so uneducated. How long have we as women had to struggle even to be able to report such a crime? These "police" should loose their jobs and when replace , they need to make sure they are educated , so we as the victims can once again have our dignity back. Maybe the "police" should be made to reenact what happened to the victims and then make a full report.

  • jconney80
    July 24, 2013 at 7:06 PM

    Ummm right

  • HeyEinstein
    July 24, 2013 at 7:07 PM
    I am honestly surprised. I thought our society was passed those atrocious ideas.
  • alexis_06
    July 24, 2013 at 7:13 PM


  • RADmomma
    July 24, 2013 at 9:14 PM
    This is lovely x
  • strawberryLVR
    July 24, 2013 at 9:27 PM

    from my understanding "rape" doesn't even have to be sexually involved! could be other things

  • ditsyjo
    by ditsyjo
    July 25, 2013 at 12:16 AM

    those guys are nuts.

  • trainlady
    July 25, 2013 at 7:52 AM

    I'm not surprised about campus police doing anything that is stupid. I went to UCLA many years ago and they were just as dumb then. Also, they were onesided. All for the guys and protecting them from a stupid female that wanted to shout rape over every little thing. Well there is such a thing as rape on a man and you can bet if that was brought up they would see that the woman was punished really good. In my book if the woman is attacked and penetrated even a little bit its rape. NO if ands or buts about it.  I do believe that if women to go frat parties and get so drunk they can't take care of themselves they are putting themselves in harms way, but that still doesn't okay rape. It just means they should be more careful with their lives.

  • RheaF
    by RheaF
    July 25, 2013 at 9:12 AM

     Ok, that notion is ignorant. Yes it is rape even if they don't "finish".

    However I will say this....

    I have a close family member who is a detective at the beach (OC MD), and many times the claims of "rape" are really just girls who get drunk, screw up and then want to blame anyone but themselves. No date rape drugs are involoved, they get caught in the drunken moment and have a one night stand, thats it. No reason some guy who was just as drunk thinking he was getting lucky should have to pay his entire life for it. Same happens many times in high schools, colleges, etc.

    I am not saying rape doesn't happen, it does, however, I think in many of these cases people need to seriously look at both parties.

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