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Is this rude, or is it just me? EDITED TO ADD #3
July 5, 2013 at 10:39 AM

I stopped at the grocery store this morning with my 9 month old daughter to pick up a loaf of bread.  I got in the check out line behind two people.  The lady right in front of me had a cart load of groceries.  So I stood there in line, holding my daughter and a loaf of bread waiting for my turn.

I thought it was inconsiderate to not offer to let me ahead of her.  If I find myself in a similar situation I always offer, even if I have my kids and the person behind me is alone.  To me, it's just common courtesy.

FYI. There was only 1 line open, no express line.  She absolutely knew I was there because she had to go around me to grab a magazine from the rack behind me.

ETA.  Wow.  I really didn't expect that I would be in the minority on this one.  I thought that letting someone ahead of you in line was just common courtesy, like holding the door for the person behind you.  

I'm really surprised that some of you think I was rude by expecting to be allowed to go ahead.  First of all, I didn't actually "expect" it (I've learned a long time ago that expecting people to be considerate and polite is a waste of time), I just thought it was inconsiderate. Secondly, even if I did expect it, I don't see how that would be rude.  I mean, expecting people to be kind and considerate of others is rude?  Hmmmm.  Perhaps if I had said something to her, that would have been rude, but I simply waited patiently in line with my daughter.

I do get that her time is just as important as mine, but honestly what is 30 seconds to anyone?

And, for further clarification I am not a spoiled, entitled brat.  I'm just someone who was raised to go out of my way to help others and am sometimes surprised that not everyone was taught common courtesy.

ETA #2.

Well apparently I am in the minority on this one.  I honestly thought this was a common act of courtesy.  I do it all of the time and others have done it for me. 

You can continue to believe that I am a spoiled, entitled brat.  But just remember, the next time you are stuck in traffic, trying to merge and someone lets you in it might be me.  Or if you are running through a downpour towards the bank, and someone waits an extra 5 seconds to hold the door for you, it might be me.

ETA #3.

Well, I'm glad to see I have a couple of supporters out there.  I guess we just look at the world a little differently that the majority of people.  

To those who resorted to name calling (you know who you are), all I have to say is "how rude!"


  • StrangeDays
    July 5, 2013 at 10:41 AM
    Courteous, sure, but it's not expected. Why didn't you just go to a different line?
  • AHmom103
    July 5, 2013 at 10:41 AM

     No, it's not rude. No one is obligated to give their spot in line to someone else, even if they have 10 carts full, and you only have one item.

  • emilysmom8
    July 5, 2013 at 10:43 AM

     No it wasnt rude of her... In fact I think its rude of people to assume because they only have one or two items they should be able to skip in front of people

  • sarah824
    July 5, 2013 at 10:51 AM

    I don't think she was rude to not give up her spot. I actually think it is rude of you to EXPECT her to let you go.

  • sahmw2010
    July 5, 2013 at 10:53 AM

     no its not rude. SHE was there FIRST. sure its nice when they let you go first, but you shouldnt expect it. FIRST come FIRST serve, you were not first so you wait your turn

  • goldilocksbecky
    July 5, 2013 at 11:08 AM

    Yeah, that's the kind of thing that you count as a nice little blessing when it happens, but you certainly shouldn't expect it.

    Like you said, in that situation I'd usually let the person with a single item go ahead of me.  I try to offer small gestures of kindness as much as possible.  But there have been occasions when I was on a very tight schedule and trying to get in and out as quickly as possible.  You don't know what the lady in front of you had going on.  Her time is just as precious as yours and the fact is, she got there first.


  • Bmat
    by Bmat
    July 5, 2013 at 11:11 AM

    She was inconsiderate, but I wouldn't say rude. She was not obligated to do the right thing.

  • jillianmayasmom
    July 5, 2013 at 11:13 AM

    Quoting sarah824:

    I don't think she was rude to not give up her spot. I actually think it is rude of you to EXPECT her to let you go.

  • sjenkins8208
    July 5, 2013 at 11:21 AM
    No I don't think it's rude.
  • EsmeVincent
    July 5, 2013 at 11:33 AM

    no its not rude...why expect people to put you and your family before their own?  I'm sure she had things she needed to do

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