lyranightshade
HELP from mommas with special needs kids, PLEASE. At my breaking point.
May 17, 2013 at 8:13 PM

It's been a long time since I've been on here. But I know that there are a lot of mommas here with kids who have special needs and might be able to help me out. My oldest DS will be 5 in June. His behavior has gotten to the point that this evening, I broke down and cried because I just didn't know what to do. He won't listen to a word anyone says... he obsesses about the time something will happen, how many days until, he'll fight sleep until he just passes out if we screw his bedtime routine up. He's so, so smart that it's hard to challenge him academically, but he won't really interact with kids his age. He'll play games with younger kids and get frustrated when they don't follow the rules. Recently, he has pushed a boy down the stairs, thrown rocks at his teacher, and actually BITTEN another kid. What almost five year old bites another kid? He has melt downs that you can't snap him out of. 

As for discipline, we've tried so many methods... yes, long enough and consistent enough that if it were to work, it would have shown some improvement. Totally ignoring any and all "attention seeking/"bad" behavior and enthusiastically rewarding good, removing toys and priveledges and having him earn them back, even spanking (which had absolutely NO effect on him), time outs... time outs that were timed kept him occupied because he would count ticking. Time out otherwise didn't work because short of actually restraining him, I couldn't make him STAY in time out.

I work a lot to support my family, but I want what time we have together to be quality, fun time. I have a younger son turning 2 and honestly, I feel like all my mommy time is spent being frustrated beyond belief. My husband is on IV therapy twice a day (a total of seven hours a day) and still working between doses. 

Has anyone else gone through this? What do I tell his pediatrician? What can I expect to happen? What questions should I ask?

Replies

  • lyranightshade
    May 17, 2013 at 8:16 PM

    BUMP!

  • lyranightshade
    May 17, 2013 at 8:18 PM

    Please, guys, I'm really just... so overwhelmed.

  • lyranightshade
    May 17, 2013 at 8:21 PM
    No one? No one has any direction here?
  • bigmama423
    May 17, 2013 at 8:22 PM
    You need to see a developmental pediatrician.
  • chocolat-smiles
    May 17, 2013 at 8:23 PM
    Bump for help
  • bigmama423
    May 17, 2013 at 8:24 PM
    By the way, I'm going through the same thing with my son. Good luck & hang in there!!
  • chocolat-smiles
    May 17, 2013 at 8:24 PM
    Maybe take him to his pedi, explain everything as you did here and ask for a referral to a behavioral therapist?
  • lyranightshade
    May 17, 2013 at 8:25 PM


    He's seeing his regular pedi to be evaluated and see if we can get a referral to a developmental pediatrician or a pediatric psychologist... any specialist that can help.

    Quoting bigmama423:

    You need to see a developmental pediatrician.



  • lyranightshade
    May 17, 2013 at 8:27 PM


    Thank you so much for offering help. We have an appointment on Tuesday with his pedi. I'm just... I feel like such a failure. I feel like I should be able to do this, you know? He's my baby. 

    Quoting chocolat-smiles:

    Maybe take him to his pedi, explain everything as you did here and ask for a referral to a behavioral therapist?



  • bigmama423
    May 17, 2013 at 8:29 PM
    In my opinion a psych is a waste of time. The Dev. Ped. is the one who does all the evaluations to get an idea or Dx. You might be able to get evaluations and testing done through your school district as well.

    Quoting lyranightshade:


    He's seeing his regular pedi to be evaluated and see if we can get a referral to a developmental pediatrician or a pediatric psychologist... any specialist that can help.


    Quoting bigmama423:

    You need to see a developmental pediatrician.