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duckiesgurl
In Special Care and need to get this off my chest before I put myself in a Coma!!
March 22, 2013 at 9:03 PM

 So I have preeclamisa and im 35 weeks pregnant. And they have put me in the hospital until i deliver i have been here almost a week. And I have a 2 year old DD at home. I am a stay at home mom so this is really the 1st time we have ever been away from each other and its killing me. It kills me!!! My husband has been able to be with her during the day and his mother sits with her at night. Well last night they thought they were going to take the baby because they couldnt get my blood pressure down and my husband had the night off so he stayed with me and my mother in law had to get up with DD today. Well hubby went home at noon to get her lunch, clean ( because mil does nothing expect feed her and sometimes change her) and they were all going to come back up here.

I dislike my mil alot!!! Like she has made herself the viticm in everything that happens. And We have even given her breaks this week where she ONLY had to be at our house while DD slept from 10pm-8am and then my sister comes and sits there until my husband gets up at 1. then they come up here. We even told her she could do her laudnry and eat our food and all that shit while she watched my daughter sleep. This was the plan we had for the week i was susposed to have my c-section. and she was fine with it. I even wrote out what I do for my DD if this or this happens, i mean my husband puts her to bed before he leaves how hard is it to watch a sleeping baby.

Anywas so yesterday she was sitting here all quiet and i guess she was mad because they brought me dinner and i gave some to my DD and my husband stole my fries, and she was mad that i didnt offer her any!!! It was my dinner hospital food, where they do portions there wasnt really enough to even feed DD like i did and i didnt willing share with hubby. So she went home pissed and took it out on my husband ( who didnt come to spend the night with me until after DD was a sleep in bed). Then today she comes in with DD and hubby puts down DDs diaper bag and then walks out the door without saying anything to anyone.

So my husband is like okay and he texts her shes in the family room reading and drinking some coffee... she says i thought my name was mad at me he was like why the hell would she be mad at you. So she sat in there for an hour, i wasnt mad but good i didnt want to stare at her fucking face anyway!! Then she comes in about an hour later and DD fell a sleep between my legs on my bed and she starts telling us we shouldnt let her nap because its not good for her to nap this late, 3pm. And I was like well we were sunggling and she fell a sleep she will still sleep tonight its not a big deal. She sits in the chair by the door ( away from us) and then talks to her ex husband whom is married and she is still fucking because he wants her!!! and invites him up here, i told her only family on my list is allowed up here so they wont let him in she gets pissed and tells him never mind.

Then my sister calls and asks if she can still do laundry at our house because shes coming tommorw to clean the house and i told her instead of paying her she could do her laundry. For some reason this pisses his mother off ( even though she hasnt even done a fucking dish since she had to sit there which i was informed they were all gross) she then brings up if i need clean clothes i told her no because im wearing the gowns. She said oh i was going to do some of your guys laundry for you i told her she didnt need to because we all have enough to get through 3 weeks without doing it. And she was like oh, i was like nothing agianst you just some things need to be washed a certian way and some things cant be dried, and NO ONE  is doing our laundry not even my sister. But i told her if she wanted to do hers this is how it works this is the trick, got to do this blah blah blah cuz its fucking old!!! and she got up and stormed out and was like ill be waiting in the fucking car!! WAIT what??? yeah she flipped out for no reason im guessing because i wasnt mean about it at all. Just said thats what i perfer i wont be here much longer so its not needed she do our laundry.

 

So she took off, and i started weeping because this is the bitch that my DD has to spend the night with ( yes at our house ) but still i didnt want her to take shit out on her. So I asked my sister to do it, she took the night off work and shes going to sit with DD tonight and my mom will be back from her vacation tommorrow night and can do it until i get home. So I dont need her to fucking throw bitch fits over nothing!!!! And she can fucking come to me and say thats shes sorry my blood pressure is so high that just by crying it could do alot of damage to my baby and I. I dont need this and shes just going to have to throw fits from afar!!

Thanks for hanging on this long if you did lol  any advice would be welcome or telling me im the one being crazy works too because hell i am so out of wack with mood swings and depression that it could all be me. but thanks for listening.

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  • frndlyfn
    March 22, 2013 at 9:17 PM

    Why does the child need to be actualy watched while they are sleeping?  Couldnt the MIL just sleep as well with a monitor nearby?  That is what i did when i watched children overnight with the parents permission.  I would look into another person to help out rather than her at this point.

  • duckiesgurl
    March 22, 2013 at 9:27 PM

     She doesnt need to be watched she does just sleep but she made a big deal out of it. For no reason. I dont expect her to do anything, i really dont even want her to be there with my DD.

    Quoting frndlyfn:

    Why does the child need to be actualy watched while they are sleeping?  Couldnt the MIL just sleep as well with a monitor nearby?  That is what i did when i watched children overnight with the parents permission.  I would look into another person to help out rather than her at this point.

     

  • frndlyfn
    March 22, 2013 at 9:31 PM


    oh ok,  That is what i thought.   She was making a bigger deal than it really is to be the supervising adult overnight in case the toddler needs something.

    Quoting duckiesgurl:

     She doesnt need to be watched she does just sleep but she made a big deal out of it. For no reason. I dont expect her to do anything, i really dont even want her to be there with my DD.

    Quoting frndlyfn:

    Why does the child need to be actualy watched while they are sleeping?  Couldnt the MIL just sleep as well with a monitor nearby?  That is what i did when i watched children overnight with the parents permission.  I would look into another person to help out rather than her at this point.

     



  • friendlymom5
    March 22, 2013 at 9:51 PM
    Best wishes and prayers and hugs. Try not to let her get to you hun.
  • hugss
    by hugss
    March 23, 2013 at 12:04 AM

    Hugs to you,
    Try not to let her get to you so you can stay calm/focus on what you need to.
    Good luck & let us know when the new baby is here ;)

  • strawberryLVR
    March 23, 2013 at 12:14 AM

    it's just a reflection of the issues she has and every aspect of her life will show it. this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her insecurities. someone will just have to get straight with her and tell her that this isn't about her. she can either help in a helpful giving way or shut her face. No one should be needed THAT bad to put you through this. so sorry for your stress. hugs


  • nurse1997
    March 23, 2013 at 12:24 AM

    CONGRATS ON THE BABY DONT LET YOUR MIL STRESS YOU OUT MAYBE YOU CAN GET HER SOME MEDS WHILE YOUR THERE TO CHILL HER OUT  OR EVEN BETTER KNOCK HER ASS OUT ;] SHE SOUNDS LIKE SOME ONE YOU NEED TO KEEP AT ARMS LENGTH SINCE SHES ALWAY CAUSING PROBLEMS DONT LET HER TARNISH YOUR BABYS BIRTH PUT IT BEHIND YOU AND DONT THINK TWICE ABOUT IT ANYMORE- DONT USE HER FOR ANY MORE HELP AND VISIT VERY LITTLE IF YOU HAVE TO BECAUSE OF YOUR HUSBAND- YOUR A GROWN WOMAN YOU DONT NEED TO DEAL WITH  PEOPLE LIKE THAT MIL OR NOT TELL HER TO SHAPE UP  OR YOU GUYS ARE DONE WITH HER !!! GOOD LUCK

  • Paperfishies
    March 23, 2013 at 12:34 AM
    You do know that while you're in the hospital you can request more than one dinner...if you want 2nds they will bring you 2nds. It's not prison, they will bring you as much food as you want.
  • PISCIS29
    March 23, 2013 at 12:42 AM
    Mils can be very tricky. What helps me ( mil fil sil and BIL ) live with us. Is I put on a big sarcastic smile and just pretend I'm listening when she's done b like wait what sorry I didn't get that I was in my happy place. That stopped my mil from being .... Special. Hugs mamma!!!
  • Kenre
    by Kenre
    March 23, 2013 at 12:50 AM
    It is over. A new plan is in place and harmony is restored. Now think on just the harmony and love so that you can relax. I was on bedrest for 20 weeks for preterm labor with my third. I know it is difficult. My ex was crappy many times and that is why he is my ex. I had to relax when all I wanted to do was fight, too. Remember: harmony.

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