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Crazylovingfam
Update Hey ladies help me catch my Dh cheating ASAP!
January 23, 2013 at 10:42 PM
I made a post the other day about emails of my husbands. I've denied everything. Now I am trying to find solid proof. Anyways I just text this number that was on the list of numbers he texted yesterday but there is no messages in his phone. The name came up George. I just said "hey". They text back "hey lol" with a sig that says "mrs jones" with hearts. I don't know what to say now.


Update 11/24 11pm

I am just getting on here updating a little. I have not read all the replies nor am I going to tonight. I am out of state in a hotel with my son to think about things. We will be going to the children's museum tomorrow. He texted me today and told me he needed to talk to me. I was in a meeting but told him I would not be talking to him if he couldn't give me the respect to tell me the truth and after 6 years I deserve that. Well we met at the house. He said the condoms were truely not his (idk whether this is true or not but he HATES condoms I can tell you that much). He said the emails were his but he never actually met up with the person. He said it ended up being a scam when she text him a webcam address and he spent money on it. He said lindsey he put her number under a different name because he was afraid I would get jealous he was talking to another girl. He said all of the conversations he had with her related to work. He said her husband came up to his work today thinking the same thing I was/am because I mentioned condoms. He said his name was also under a different name in her phone. I asked him what made him want to come clean all of a sudden. He told me it was because he deleted his email account/text so I wouldn't have anything on him, and he knew I had him when he got a email at work his email had been re-activated and I already told him earlier I was having a mutual friend come over later to find out the ip address the emails were sent from (although I figured it out without said friend). I still don't know what to do. He did apologize. I just don't want to make a decision without thinking. I love him very much and I want my son to have his father in his life so I can't just think of myself. I also don't want to bring this up to family because it is embarrassing. I also at the same time do not want to worry every minute who he is talking to, who he is sleeping with, where he is ect. I also don't want to deal with him ever cheating again (yes his intentions were cheating so I see it as cheating). I guess I will just try to think about everything tonight and try to sleep and enjoy my time with my son.

Replies

  • JTnJT
    by JTnJT
    January 24, 2013 at 6:00 PM

    Why does everyone think they need to sneak around and "try" to catch the SO in the act?  Doing this doesn't make you any better than the person doing the cheating....assuming of course he is actually cheating....and not that you've just let your imagination run away with you....isn't part of the issue that the person cheating...isn't being honest and straight forward?   So, how is what you are doing any better?  This kind of shit just blows my mind.....be an effing adult and use your big girl words and talk to the man!!!

  • Starry412
    January 24, 2013 at 6:20 PM

    I told my dh what has happened and he said he is cheating no doubt and to leave him. I say the same thing.

  • AJnEsMama
    January 24, 2013 at 6:25 PM


    She did but he wouldn't admit to anything. Sometimes people want to know for sure not just bits of evidence before they can leave. Some people are very good at manipulating so the person does not know what to think anymore and not everyone just bails on a relationship because of suspicians. It is human nature to become jealous or suspicious at some point. It does not always mean the person is cheating and it does not always mean the relationship is doomed. Relationships have ups and downs. I don't think wanting to know after all the sneaky things her dh did makes her as bad as a cheater. Not everyone does this. Cheating is a choice. 

    Quoting JTnJT:

    Why does everyone think they need to sneak around and "try" to catch the SO in the act?  Doing this doesn't make you any better than the person doing the cheating....assuming of course he is actually cheating....and not that you've just let your imagination run away with you....isn't part of the issue that the person cheating...isn't being honest and straight forward?   So, how is what you are doing any better?  This kind of shit just blows my mind.....be an effing adult and use your big girl words and talk to the man!!!



  • sweetnspacey
    January 24, 2013 at 6:25 PM

    BUMP!

  • lizmeek
    by lizmeek
    January 24, 2013 at 6:25 PM


    Quoting Basherte:

    I'm waiting on an update.



  • louthamanboys
    January 24, 2013 at 6:25 PM
    bump
  • Crazylovingfam
    January 24, 2013 at 6:33 PM
    Well he finally told me the truth. Idk what I am doing yet. I am leaving town for th night to take my son to fun day tomorrow
  • mystearica
    January 24, 2013 at 6:35 PM
    "me-e a-and Mrs! Mrs.Jones! We've got a thing! Going on!"
  • ilovemyson2002
    January 24, 2013 at 6:38 PM

     hugs and good luck hope it works out have fun with your son tomorrow

    Quoting Crazylovingfam:

    Well he finally told me the truth. Idk what I am doing yet. I am leaving town for th night to take my son to fun day tomorrow

     

  • jessmomto2boys
    January 24, 2013 at 6:40 PM

    And the truth was that he was cheating? :(

    I am so sorry. :(

    ((hugs))

    Quoting Crazylovingfam:

    Well he finally told me the truth. Idk what I am doing yet. I am leaving town for th night to take my son to fun day tomorrow


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