We were having dinner at in-laws house and my 2.5yr old starts throwing a fit. I get her calmed down and FIL tells me that if it were his child that she would be beat to the point she wouldn't cry again. That his children never cried like that. I went off and told him she is NOT his child. No one tells me what to do and my Dh went off and told him that is abuse. Then MIL went off on us and told us we cannot raise our voice to FIL. Screw those fuckers. I'm so angry its ridiculous. A 2yr old is going to have tantrums. Its not giving in to those tantrums that will pay off in the end. I swear I could just scream right now.
I just needed to get this off my chest before I get too upset.
I wouldn't be eating at their house again....and, any more interaction should occur at your home, so if they want to critisize your parenting, you'll have every right to raise your voice to them about it.
Ugh!! I HATE that. My SIL said the same this to me once when my (barely) 3 y/o threw a fit. This came from a girl whose daughter was a whole year younger than mine (so barely 2 and talking about beating her ass???). I just looked at her, and then at MIL, and we just rolled our eyes. I almost said "Well I don't like to abuse my kids like you".